Dear Dom: I have a question about how submissiveness and dependence coincide. Is there a dilemma between the two? Or are they basically one and the same?

Sole Encounter

2007-06-25

What makes foot worship so special and so sexy?

"Who's Your Daddy?"

2007-05-26

How does a protective Daddy-Dom find the right girl for the roleplay relationship he craves?

Community Ties

2007-04-12

For this column, BaadMaster and Mistress Naia will answer two different questions on the topic of Bondage Connections.

Here Sparky-Spark!

2007-02-20

Two perspectives, lots of ideas on how to add spark to your BDSM relationship.

Pondering Poly: A Checklist

2007-01-26

If you are considering a poly relationship make sure you take a look at these lists!

St. Andrew's Cross

2007-01-12

Afraid of public play on a St. Andrew's cross? The Doms discuss some of the reasons you may be feeling some trepidation and how to turn it to your favor.

New Year’s Domination

2006-12-29

Find out what the Dom's think about New Year's resolutions!

Sub-verted

2006-12-15

Trying to figure out how to get into sub-space? The Doms offer up their suggestions!

Marked For Love

2006-11-19

Sometimes love can change a relationship and it can change the way you feel about the things you do. The Doms address this touchy subject.

Lip Service

2006-11-10

Giving oral sex might seem like an un-domly activity, but these Doms don't think so!

Dommed If You Do

2006-10-23

Changing roles can be a easy as putting on a costume or better taking one off! The Doms discuss the "switching" issue!

Matching your protocol level is important when you are starting a BDSM relationship, but what happens when what you thought isn't matching up to the reality? The Doms offer suggestions to how to keep the relationship on track despite the differences.

Sub at First Sight

2006-09-22

The Doms discuss the importance of communication in a BDSM relationship, even if it is your first one.

Master Piece

2006-09-07

Shibari is a beautiful form of rope bondage. It is an art form. If you are interested in finding out more about this very special form of bondage start by checking out what the Dom's thinks.

Unsubly, Unsubtle

2006-08-22

When a Dom offers a collar after only one or two meetings it should send red flags flying. The Doms discuss what to do if this happens to you and ways to approach the Dom making the offer.

You're So Far Away

2006-08-15

Long Distance relationships can be tough. BaadMaster and Mistress Naia discuss ways to smooth out a bump in the road.

Poly-Whipped

2006-08-06

When your Dom denies you something you need - what recourse do you have? The Doms give advice to a sub in a poly relationship that misses the whip.

Liar, Liar!

2006-07-07

The Dom's address the issue of communication and trust in this edition.

Hair Apparent

2006-06-25

What is a fetish and what do you do when you discover you have one? The Doms give their advice.

Saturday, Sunday, Subbie

2006-06-16

Communicating what you want can be hard; it can be even harder when you are new to this lifestyle. Check out what the Doms suggest to get your message across.

Peeper

2006-06-04

The Doms address a tough question about voyeurism and relationships.

Play Nice, Party On

2006-05-24

This is a must read if you are preparing to attend your first Play Party! The Doms explore ways to prepare and have fun!

Bad Scene Blues

2006-05-15

The Doms discuss ways to get back on the BDSM horse after a bad scene!

Wax On, Wax Off!

2006-04-24

The Doms suggest ways to introduce a partner to a type of play they may be frightened of and they discuss some specifics of wax play!

Know Thysubself

2006-04-07

Knowing your limits is important. However, some Doms want to push limits. How do you know where to draw the line between what you like and don't like and what limits you are willing to bend? Check out what the Doms think.

We Can Work It Out

2006-03-24

The Doms discuss the concept of the ideal 24/7 situation and the reality.

Prize and Penalty

2006-03-10

The Doms discuss ways to add new tools to your D/s repertoire.

Second Skin

2006-02-27

BaadMaster and Mistress Naia have differing opinions on what type of latex is best!

Inner Sub-Seeking

2006-02-03

When you are new to BDSM it can be a little overwhelming and building trust can take time. The Doms explore these newbie issues.

Emotional Endurance

2006-01-28

BaadMaster takes a turn at going first in this "Dear Dom" discussion of long-term bondage.

BDSM Clubs 101

2006-01-16

The Doms suggest ways to start a BDSM club on college campuses!

100th Dear Dom Tell-All-a-Thon

2005-12-30

The Doms celebrate their 100th column in a special way!

31 Floggers

2005-12-09

Floggers seem to be the tool of choice for many Doms, find out why they might prefer one over another.

See No Evil

2005-11-22

The Doms discuss some of the safety aspects of using a blindfold.

Virgin Rapture

2005-11-06

What is "Virgin Rapture" and what do you do when it ends? Mistress Naia and BaadMaster discuss ways to deal with this common occurrence.

Inhalation Solicitation

2005-10-19

A new client brings new challenges to a Pro-Domme. The Doms offer their suggestions on what to consider when she considers his smoking fetish.

Outcast or Rebel?

2005-10-09

A discussion of the BDSM Lifestyle and whether or not we will ever be accepted by the general public.

Weld Done

2005-09-30

Whether or not you are ready to accept a collar may very well depend on what a receiving collar means to you. The Doms answer the question as to how fast is too fast when it comes to a permanent collar.

Three's a Charm?

2005-09-09

The Doms address the tough issue of relationship changes in this edition of Dear Dom.

Sissy-Subbie

2005-08-22

Does being into feminization play make you gay? See what the Doms think!

Going Solo

2005-08-06

When dabbling in self- bondage there are a myriad of safety and technique considerations. The Doms discuss these issues in this edition.

Cane or Cane-Not

2005-07-24

Is the cane a hard limit for you? See what the Doms have to say about hard limits and canes!

Exposed

2005-07-05

Now that summer is here, thoughts of playing outside may come to mind. The Doms address ways to be safe and offer suggestions on ways to take advantage of the sunny days.

And They're Off!

2005-06-25

The Doms discuss the different types of Pony play!

May & December

2005-06-04

Are you older than your sub? Check out what the Dom's have to say about May/December BDSM relationships.

Chaste... or Chased?

2005-05-22

Mistress Naia and BaadMaster discuss the appeal of chastity play.

X Marks the Spank

2005-05-07

Want to show off your hard earned BDSM marks? Check out what the Doms suggest before you decide.

Secret Service

2005-04-24

The Doms define service and explain why it might be one of the harder aspects of D/s.

For Real, RL

2005-04-10

When it comes to meeting play partners, online is a great way. However, don't be afraid to stick to your standards for getting references. The Doms discuss this important aspect of getting to know someone.

Tickle Hospital

2005-03-26

The BDSM community is full of different types of fetishes. The Doms discuss tickling fetish in this column.

Speak the Unspeakable

2005-03-09

Deciding to come out to your friends and family is a difficult decision. The Doms address this tough issue and discuss why it is not the same as coming out as homosexual.

Long Haul Lovin

2005-02-19

Is it time to refresh your BDSM relationship? BaadMaster and Mistress Naia give some ideas to beat the boredom.

Distance Dominance

2005-02-04

What do you do when you are in a long distance relationship and you need to punish your sub? BaadMaster and Mistress Naia come up with some interesting ideas!

Public Service

2005-01-25

Looking for ways to use Humilation for punishment? The Doms make some interesting suggetions in "Public Service".

Mean Means

2005-01-08

Are you a bad slave for questioning your Dom? Not according to the Dom’s of Dear Dom.

RL Results

2004-12-21

Mistress Naia and BaadMaster discuss ways to approach online dating services and how to get the most from them.

Flipping the Switch

2004-12-04

New to BDSM and not sure what your role is? Do both Topping and bottoming appeal to you? The Doms address these issues in this edition of Dear Dom!

Layered Players

2004-11-18

Growing together is one of the great things about a relationships, but sometimes that growth takes you to place you didn't expect. The Doms discuss steps that may assist you in continuing to grow together as you explore new things.

Carried Away

2004-11-04

Thinking of doing an play abduction scene? Here are some tips from the Dear Dom’s on how to do the scene and keep everyone safe while doing it!

Itty-Bitty-Bi?

2004-10-18

BaadMaster and Mistress Naia discuss the labels that abound in the BDSM community and how to focus on your BDSM experience and not to worry about the label.

Chew On This

2004-10-06

What is the attraction to doing Weight Gain/Loss, Food Choice/Directed Eating, and Forced Exercise trainging for Doms? BaadMaster and Mistress Naia discuss this type of training.

Pretty as a Picture

2004-09-18

Are you ready to exchange images with a new online friend? The Doms offer advice on how to make interesting artful scenes while exchanging images and how to keep it safe!

Safe, Sane, Bipolar

2004-09-06

BaadMaster and Mistress Naia discuss ways to keep BDSM play safe when your partner has bipolar disorder.

Roots and Reasons

2004-08-14

Mistress Naia discusses the issue of protocols and why we use still use them. BaadMaster discusses the "Leather Men" look and the BDSM traditions they represents.

Switch-L-Switch

2004-07-02

If you and you partner are switches, is collaring appropriate? The Doms takle this issue!

From Sexy to Salacious

2004-06-16

When does kinky sex turn into BDSM? The Doms answer this perplexing question.

Devout Deviant

2004-06-03

The struggle between religion and BDSM is common. The Doms address the issue of Christianity and BDSM.

Lost and Found

2004-05-23

Are you new to the online scene and looking for a Master? The Doms address this complex issue with suggestions on how to get started and tips on completing your personal.

Tortured Seoul

2004-05-08

Being apart can test a D/s relationship. Mistress Naia and BaadMaster offer suggestions on how to keep it going even when you are spending a significant amount of time apart.

Spanks for the Memories

2004-04-15

BaadMaster and Mistress Naia share their most memorable spanking scene! Make sure you watch out for flying floggers!

Hearts Apart

2004-04-01

Suggestions on what to watch out for starting a Long Distance Relationship.

Willy Wanker

2004-03-15

Are you worried because your mate is no longer masturbating? Dear Doms offer their advice on this "touchy" subject!

Master Mistake Maker

2004-03-03

Are you a new Dom and think you might make mistakes with your experienced submissive? The Doms of Dear Dom address this issue!

Eternal Domnation

2004-02-23

Mistress Naia and BaadMaster mix it up in this newest edition of Dear Dom adn answer the question: If one's sincere desire is to be completely dominated, and yet they have a bit of a domineering personality outside the bedroom, can the fantasy truly ever become a reality?