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Illuminations

Play Parties for Beginners

2007-04-11

If you're a newbie who wants to meet other people interested in BDSM, play parties are a great resource. Learn the differences between public and private play parties, and get some ideas for what to expect when you venture out to your first one.

Enhancing Romance through Ritual

2006-10-17

Rituals are a great way to celebrate a relationship. Silkenluv examines the use of rituals in BDSM relationships.

Bondage Safety

2006-09-10

If you are going to participate in a bondage scene, you must think about your safety and your partner’s safety before you even begin. Silkenluv offers up where to start when it comes to bondage and safety.

Lashes of Pleasure

2006-08-13

Find out why the single-tail can be so challenging to use and why this tool is so scary and yet, so exciting to silkenluv.

Something More Deliberate

2006-06-23

Silkenluv examines the way your age may affect your ability to discover and explore your fetish.

Video Voyeur in Good Company

2006-06-06

Now that the Internet allows for real-time interactions through the webcam - voyeurs have a whole new way to play!

Wax Play

2006-05-01

Silkenluv discusses logistical and safety issues when considering Wax Play!

The Road Back

2006-04-21

Silkenluv discusses why we close ourselves off and ways to let go and become vulnerable.

24/7 Power Exchange ... Keeping It Special

2006-03-29

Silkenluv discusses ways to keep your 24/7 relationship special.

Stretching the Limits with Rubber

2006-03-03

The ultimate bondage equipment - Latex! Silkenluv introduces us to the different ways latex is used to make straps, hoods, beds and more!

Bondage Safety

2006-01-26

Staying safe while in bondage is an important first step in long-term bondage. Silkenluv explores this type of bondage and its safety considerations.

The Push and Pull of Pride

2006-01-18

Silkenluv reveals how she discovered what she needed to do in order to find a dominant that was right for her.

Dancing to the Beat of the Flogger

2005-12-25

Silkenluv shares her personal experiences with getting past her fear of the flogger and learning to love it.

The Enhancement of Sight Deprivation

2005-11-24

Sensory Deprivation can be exciting as well as frightening. Silkenluv discusses the blindfold as a sensory deprivation tool.

The Dark Side of Smoking Fetishism

2005-10-28

People who share the same fetish often have very specific ways in which it manifests itself. Smoking fetishism is no different. Silkenluv explores the “Dark Side”.

The Collar... BDSM Symbolism and Personal Meaning

2005-09-24

Silenluv discusses three different levels of collaring and her personal experience.

The Power of Panties

2005-08-20

Silkenluv discussed "Forced Feminization" with several friends, and what she found out surprised her. The simple act of being "forced" to wear a pair of panties, changed the way they felt about themselves as well as their Domme.

The Seduction of a Violent Act

2005-07-26

Silkenluv discusses how she came to be able to accept a caning.

The Special Pony

2005-06-19

What is the “Wooden Pony”? Silkenluv shares her love of this torture device with us. She explains how to make one and how to use it!

Chastity As a Point of Obedience

2005-05-26

Chastity can be the ultimate in control. However, sometimes that control can lead to problems.

Motivation to Serve

2005-04-28

Silkenluv discusses some of the motivating factors for the submissive to serve in a D/s relationship.

Tickling - A Learned Pleasure

2005-03-30

Tickling can lead to sensory overload. Learn how silkenluv managed to quell some of the panic feelings associated with tickling and learned to find the pleasure in it.

The Road to Intimacy

2005-03-07

Trust is important in any relationship, this includes BDSM relationships. It is hard to gain the intimacy required to trust another, but when you do the benefits far out way the negatives.

Erotic Humiliation - Enjoying the Trip

2005-01-27

BDSMers enjoy pushing the envelope and a head trip is a powerful tool. Silkenluv discusses embarrassment and humiliation!

Light Switching

2004-12-11

Silkenluv looks at switching and how it can give you insight into your partner’s experience.

The Power within BDSM and Bisexuality

2004-10-24

Silken reveals her experience with bisexuality as well as exploring it from a male submissive perspective.

BDSM Aesthetics and Art

2004-09-22

BDSM scenes can offer us a glimpse into the artist soul of the participants. Silkenluv discusses how, for both the participants and the viewers, pain and suffering is transformed into art.

Historical Labels

2004-08-19

Silkenluvs discusses the labels that are used to describe BDSM and thier origins.

BDSM in the Shadows of Kinky Sex

2004-06-22

Why is kinky sex not BDSM? Silkenluv asserts that BDSM is a lifestyle choice and kinky sex, which may incorporate aspects of BDSM, is essentially just about getting off.

Cyber Cupid

2004-05-21

Silkenluv dives right in and discusses the red flags to look out for when meeting a user online and gives tips on how to make sure you complete your personal so you are not sending up red flags!

Painful Intensity

2004-04-20

Silkenluv describes one of her most erotic spanking scenes and what the attraction is for allowing someone to cause pain to achieve erotic satisfaction.

Masturbation: Ditching the Guilt

2004-03-17

Masturbation has a long and sordid history. Silkenluv looks at some of the myths of masturbation and shares with us what users told her about their favorite way to get off. Finally she introduces us to the vagina sucker. This column covers it all - when it comes to masturbation!

Discovering the Scene

2004-02-18

Now that you have discovered an online community of BDSM it’s time to go out! Silkenluv offers up suggestions about how to dress, what to do and what not to do when attending your first play party or munch.

Cyber Sex - Old and New Dimensions

2003-12-20

What exactly is sex? Can we find alternate meanings that are just as valid? Silkenluv discusses the concept of Cyber Sex. She examines not only where it started, but where technology is taking it!

The Medical Edge

2003-11-19

Medical play allows for the control inherent in BDSM. A D/s relationship can be stretch to its limits. Silkenluv gives three real life examples of: how a medical play fetish can begin, how medical scening can work in a D/s relationship and how medical play can be taken to the very edge.

Mummified

2003-10-10

Mummification, for your submissive can be very constrictive. For the dominant it can give you total control. Whichever side of the fence you are on, Silkenluv reminds us that we must keep safety foremost in our minds when performing a mummification scene!

The Foot: Fetish Worthy?

2003-09-12

Silkenluv explores the question - Is the foot fetish worthy?

Dungeon Etiquette - Giving Public Kink a Chance

2003-08-03

When planning to go to a play party at a Dungeon you may want to review these etiquette tips offered by silkenluv. They just might make your first visit a little easier!

Electric Play

2003-06-20

Silkenluv decribes the video that got her interested in Electric Play and offers up details about the kind of Electric Play she likes!

High Tech Pen Pals And Online Safety

2003-04-26

Online Chat is a great way to meet new people and discuss kinks in a safe environment. Silkenluv discusses ways to be safe while using online chat.

Kink in Public

2003-03-21

Exhibitionism can be defined as a person who exposes his or her genitals to strangers in a non-consensual and sexual manner. In this article Silkenluv explores ways in which BDSMers use Exhibitionism in a different, private, yet public way.

Polyamorous Relationships: Loving More Than One

2003-02-09

Polyamory can bring a whole host of emotional issues bubbling to the surface. Silkenluv examines these issues and shares with us how some have overcome them.

BDSM and Your Life - Public, Private, or Secret?

2002-12-23

When is it appropriate for us to share our kinky lifestyle and when is it better that we keep it secret? Silkenluv presents us with several cases where players have chosen different paths and why they work for them.

Fetish Wear: Dressing the Part

2002-11-07

Dressing the part can give you confidence and enhance your BDSM experience according to silkenluv. In this edition of Illuminations she tells about her first public party and munch and how some of the players were dressed!

Learning to Be Better

2002-09-05

Silkenluv gives us insight into what Training means to her.

Cock and Ball Torture

2002-07-18

CBT is uniquely a male experience. Silkenluv finds out what it is about this type of play that makes it so pleasurable.

Anal Pleasure - It hurts so good!

2002-05-16

Silkenluv discusses the biological aspects of anal play to help us understand why it hurts so good!

The Power and Pleasure of Fisting

2002-02-18

silkenluv gives us practical information on the best way to prepare and practice fisting!

Women and Self Love

2002-01-11

Silkenluv discusses masturbation techniques and how we can use masturbation in a power exchange relationship.

The Evolution of Spanking: From Childhood Discipline to Adult Eroticism

2001-11-22

Silkenluv explores the desire to be spanked that began from her first experience watching a teacher spank another student, to play spanking with a cousin and now in her adult play.

Devices of Torture and Impalement

2001-11-05

Exploring the use and types of dildos and vibrators, including a brief history and information on machines that use them!

Role-Playing

2001-09-20

This article gives us insights as to why people role play and some of the ways in which BDSMers participate in Role-play.

Breast Torture

2001-07-20

Breast piercing is an extreme form of Breast torture, but one that is growing in popularity. Silkenluv introduces us to this kind of play, what is required and how to be safe!

Rituals

2001-07-10

Rituals can be a way to begin or end play or a way to begin or end a day. Whatever type of ritual you decide can benefit both Dominant and submissive. Silkenluv discusses her experience with rituals and how they have benefited her.

Masochism - Why?

2001-05-20

Silkenluv continues to explore her masochism. She gives us a definition of masochism and follows it us with descriptions of what some people get from their masochism.

Masochism Heals

2001-05-10

Silkenluv has been searching for explanations for her masochism. She has found that Dorothy C. Hayden's explanations about masochism have come close to what Silkenluv has been searching for. She shares these with us.

Erotic Power Exchange

2001-04-19

"Erotic Power Exchange" is defined and explored in this column. Silkenluv explains the definiton in greater detail through the experience of a submissive and a Dominant.

Gagged

2001-03-03

A look at Gags from the submissive point of view, including the steps required for a submissive to become acquainted with wearing a gag.

Buried Treasure

2001-02-14

Silkenluv examines the Matchmaker section of the bondage.com website. She includes insight from Devon a user of the bondage.com matchmaker.

Essentials of the Garden

2001-01-17

Silkenluv introduces us to the importance of replenishing our bodies with food and liquid during a scene. She relates a story of a submissive that was involved in a scene where if her Master had replenished her during the scene, they both may have been able to continue the scene.