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When I've switched my msub would take what I gave him and it was good! To stand over him and just piss on his face, into his mouth, over his chest just made him more Mine. He was a good boy.

Play a little. You'll get there.

i realize we pick up preconceived notions about what is and isn't dominant or submissive,
but open minded people try to decide for themselves
as opposed to letting someone else's rules guide them.

Have you committed to being the submissive?
Or did you tell him you would only do the things you feel comfortable with
or those activities you deem submissive?
It's not something you can pick and choose.
It's not up to you to tell him that what he wishes you to do to him isn't "dominant enough".
It's up to you to obey. Period.
Unless it's something that is really harmful or a limit as agreed upon.

If we only acquiesced when it pleased us, where would be the test of submission?
i can tell you that the times when i did something that felt difficult
are the times i grew and learned and felt truly submitted.

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Since this is one of those things highlighted in the "Domme handbook", I have gone back and forth with Myself, wondering why I can't do it. I don't normally have an aversion to bodily functions, I am not disgusted by urine, sometimes when I keep My pet in long time bondage I help him out with everything, including aiming when he pees - it's not about disgust with what comes out of a person's body.

It's all about control and humiliation. I would feel very humiliated if I was ordered to pee in front of another human being. Not just to share a bathroom, mind you, peeing in a communal latrine while camping? No problem. But to do so deliberately, for somebody else's sexual pleasure? NO WAY. Not even if the person was tied down and blindfolded and gagged and whimpering - I'd be too humiliated.

So no, I don't think having somebody else control how, when and where you pee is particularly Dominant. I consider that an extremely submissive situation. If your Dom is anywhere near My headspace on this, he gets off on your disgust, even your performance anxiety. He knows He's pushing one of your limits, and I bet it gives Him a real, nice little kick to do so.

Cinder
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i agree, if the act is done in a submissive frame of mind then there's no shift in the dynamic from the submissive. however, there are some reactions that CAN cause the shift, from my experience. when the submissive doing an act out of submission finds they are in control of the situation, the dynamic can/does shift.

for example, if He has ordered her to suck His cock, and she does so, and he starts to plead and beg for Her to do other things while She's sucking his cock...the dynamic can shift regardless of her wishes/fears/mindset/etc.

i'm not saying it will happen, or that it won't. and it's hard to describe the shift to those who have never experienced it.

i said i understood her fear of the shift in dynamics and suggested communication as an answer, not that she should question her submission or His dominance.
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