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BaronslairPosted: 2009-07-03 11:41
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6,612 Posts		Better to find out who he is in the vanilla world before making a
possible mistake by hooking up in BDSM.Ask questions directly and
get real answers.Too many female subs feel threatened by simply asking......and you have the right to safety and honesty in every
BDSM relationship.
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dhalialilyPosted: 2009-07-03 21:13
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Baronslair:
Better to find out who he is in the vanilla world before making a
possible mistake by hooking up in BDSM.Ask questions directly and
get real answers.Too many female subs feel threatened by simply asking......and you have the right to safety and honesty in every
BDSM relationship.

I agree.
Having kinky sex is one thing, submission is another. He does not yet 'own' you, you are not collared. You have every right to discuss boundaries and limits. You need to consider what ways servitude benifits you. Look more about what you are getting yourself into, and establish boundaries and limitations. Consider what turns you on, and what your fantasies are. It's a two part operation, you and him. BOTH of you should be satisfied.
Play safe.

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pensivePosted: 2009-07-04 08:56
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'...Next time he comes over, greet him naked, on all fours with a crop in your teeth..'

that's a great approach.

by the way, if he will tolerate your questions
without thinking or saying anything negative
about your curiosity, i suggest TALKING THIS OVER
WITH HIM.

don't let your only gauge of him be your feelings.
his actions should reflect what he says.
and you should be 'down with the plan' or
don't play with him.

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whytechocolatePosted: 2009-07-04 11:31
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Baronslair:
Better to find out who he is in the vanilla world before making a
possible mistake by hooking up in BDSM.Ask questions directly and
get real answers.Too many female subs feel threatened by simply asking......and you have the right to safety and honesty in every
BDSM relationship.

Vanilla world? you mean normal safe sex? O I ask questions Just not always getting the answers. He says I am too impatient. But yes I think the next time he makes it to town we need to sit down and Talk First. Last time we were together he did ask me what I wanted to do. I really didn't know how to reply because I don't really know what I like that is why I want to try just about everything to find out what I like and don't like not just in this topic. we have discussed 3sum and other things and plan on doin these things at some point.
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whytechocolatePosted: 2009-07-04 11:37
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dhalialily:

Baronslair:
Better to find out who he is in the vanilla world before making a
possible mistake by hooking up in BDSM.Ask questions directly and
get real answers.Too many female subs feel threatened by simply asking......and you have the right to safety and honesty in every
BDSM relationship.

I agree.
Having kinky sex is one thing, submission is another. He does not yet 'own' you, you are not collared. You have every right to discuss boundaries and limits. You need to consider what ways servitude benifits you. Look more about what you are getting yourself into, and establish boundaries and limitations. Consider what turns you on, and what your fantasies are. It's a two part operation, you and him. BOTH of you should be satisfied.
Play safe.


Tru, since I am new to this I don't know what all is expected. At this point I know I feel good when I make him feel good and I love that I also Know that my fantasies when brought to life may not be what I really thought it would be. But there is only one way to find out Example. One of my biggest fantasies was to be with a blk man. The first one was gd. the second was a disapointment and the third got me hooked . So I am sure that I will learn things that I like and things that I don't and I need to know how far I am willing to go. we have discussed this a bit but not in detail
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whytechocolatePosted: 2009-07-04 11:42
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pensive:


'...Next time he comes over, greet him naked, on all fours with a crop in your teeth..'

that's a great approach.

by the way, if he will tolerate your questions
without thinking or saying anything negative
about your curiosity, i suggest TALKING THIS OVER
WITH HIM.

don't let your only gauge of him be your feelings.
his actions should reflect what he says.
and you should be 'down with the plan' or
don't play with him.


O I think he would love it but since he drives truck I usually go to him so doing that makes it a little hard. But we are working on getting some quality time together. I told him I went to the adult store yesterday and tld him there was a few things I thought about getting But I didn't know if had them and I could hear the excitement in his voice when he said he didn't so next time I go i will get it. He did tell me to take pics of what I got and send them to him .And informed be it would be at least a week damn He did say he would never hurt me.
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BaronslairPosted: 2009-07-04 12:03
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whytechocolate:

dhalialily:

Baronslair:
Better to find out who he is in the vanilla world before making a
possible mistake by hooking up in BDSM.Ask questions directly and
get real answers.Too many female subs feel threatened by simply asking......and you have the right to safety and honesty in every
BDSM relationship.

I agree.
Having kinky sex is one thing, submission is another. He does not yet 'own' you, you are not collared. You have every right to discuss boundaries and limits. You need to consider what ways servitude benifits you. Look more about what you are getting yourself into, and establish boundaries and limitations. Consider what turns you on, and what your fantasies are. It's a two part operation, you and him. BOTH of you should be satisfied.
Play safe.


Tru, since I am new to this I don't know what all is expected. At this point I know I feel good when I make him feel good and I love that I also Know that my fantasies when brought to life may not be what I really thought it would be. But there is only one way to find out Example. One of my biggest fantasies was to be with a blk man. The first one was gd. the second was a disapointment and the third got me hooked . So I am sure that I will learn things that I like and things that I don't and I need to know how far I am willing to go. we have discussed this a bit but not in detail
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~WhyteChocolate~


Listen up from The Baron on this one!!!.We all know that you are new and are trying to navigate through uncharted waters,we see it
all the time on this site.
DO NOT HOOK UP WITH ANYONE UNTIL YOU TRULY KNOW THEM IN THEIR VANILLA
WORLD.....THAT IS WHERE THE ANSWERS ARE.IF THEY ARE EVASIVE OR
UNRESPONSIVE.....THAT IS A RED FLAG TELLING YOU THAT SOMETHING ISN'T
QUITE WHAT IT SHOULD BE!.GOOD TOPS ARE NOT EVASIVE AND KNOW THE LIMITS OF THEIR SUBS.......FIND OUT BEFORE HOOKING UP WITH THE WRONG
GUY!.
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whytechocolatePosted: 2009-07-04 12:18
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Baronslair:

whytechocolate:

dhalialily:

Baronslair:
Better to find out who he is in the vanilla world before making a
possible mistake by hooking up in BDSM.Ask questions directly and
get real answers.Too many female subs feel threatened by simply asking......and you have the right to safety and honesty in every
BDSM relationship.

I agree.
Having kinky sex is one thing, submission is another. He does not yet 'own' you, you are not collared. You have every right to discuss boundaries and limits. You need to consider what ways servitude benifits you. Look more about what you are getting yourself into, and establish boundaries and limitations. Consider what turns you on, and what your fantasies are. It's a two part operation, you and him. BOTH of you should be satisfied.
Play safe.


Tru, since I am new to this I don't know what all is expected. At this point I know I feel good when I make him feel good and I love that I also Know that my fantasies when brought to life may not be what I really thought it would be. But there is only one way to find out Example. One of my biggest fantasies was to be with a blk man. The first one was gd. the second was a disapointment and the third got me hooked . So I am sure that I will learn things that I like and things that I don't and I need to know how far I am willing to go. we have discussed this a bit but not in detail
--


~WhyteChocolate~


Listen up from The Baron on this one!!!.We all know that you are new and are trying to navigate through uncharted waters,we see it
all the time on this site.
DO NOT HOOK UP WITH ANYONE UNTIL YOU TRULY KNOW THEM IN THEIR VANILLA
WORLD.....THAT IS WHERE THE ANSWERS ARE.IF THEY ARE EVASIVE OR
UNRESPONSIVE.....THAT IS A RED FLAG TELLING YOU THAT SOMETHING ISN'T
QUITE WHAT IT SHOULD BE!.GOOD TOPS ARE NOT EVASIVE AND KNOW THE LIMITS OF THEIR SUBS.......FIND OUT BEFORE HOOKING UP WITH THE WRONG
GUY!.

Ok Baron. I will deffinately make sure we have that talk Everything has been vanilla so far we have jst touched surface on this. If I ask him face to face I usually get answers but on the net no I don't. I will make it a priority. I'm not really sure how much he is into all this I just have a feeling that he his because of some of the toys he says he has I could be all wrong it might be I just want him to be. I do believe these are face to face topics anyways. That why you can see the exspression on his dace. Thank you Whyte AKA Bonnie
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EuphoricDavidPosted: 2009-07-05 05:03
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270 Posts		If all else fails pull his dick out of his pants once or twice a day and suck it till he explodes in your mouth.
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whytechocolatePosted: 2009-07-05 09:07
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EuphoricDavid:
If all else fails pull his dick out of his pants once or twice a day and suck it till he explodes in your mouth.

Funny we were jst talking about that and he says he has never cum that way before so I have a goal
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