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SacredMaster:
Begging is a natural behavior in a DS relationship. By begging, the sub both expresses her need and affirms the superiority of the dom. Because begging flatters the dominant, it's more effective than bitching, screaming, whining, etc. -- all of which corrode the power exchange over time.

Do you want a power exchange or a fighting match? If you want a power exchange, learning to beg is a good idea.

A dominant will grant a request if it pleases him or if he recognizes he benefits in the long run. Only when your request doesn't offer much of a benefit do you need to resort to begging.

I suppose begging could be done in many ways, but there's one way that works especially well (in my opinion). There's an attitude and cadence to it I'll try to describe.

The attitude can be described as "certainty." Do not beg if you have already accepted his decision on some level. Beg only when you know that he will ultimately benefit by granting your request.

Begging begins the instant you perceive that, despite all reason, your request is being refused.

Start by saying "Please, Sir" very fast. Wait a second for approval and then repeat it again. Say those two words very fast, repeating it. This fills a dominant with power. Dominants like that feeling; it's one of the reasons they're dominant.

The response will be negative or doubtful, but the instant he replies, say it again. Repeat it, very fast.

Remember the attitude is one of certainly, not whining. If you find yourself whining, you have already accepted his decision. In that case, you should just accept your place.

As you continue to repeat those words, you will find you're making progress.

If he isn't budging, however, you can escalate the process to bargaining by offering something of pleasure or benefit to him -- preferably something he knows you dislike. This shows him how serious you are. The right offer, combined with the begging, will almost certainly work.