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To me, "forced feminization" or "forced" anything must often have to do with feeling a sense of acceptance or permission from one's partner. That's how my forced bi- fantasies work - I want to be "ordered" to have sex with a guy for a woman's pleasure. It gets me past the anxiety of the taboo, plus it elevates the woman's power in my eyes.

I've played with fetish cross-dressing all my life because it turns me on. It's just sexy. Women all dressed up are super sexy to me. Photos of fashion models are hotter in a way than pics of naked women. Since I can't seem to find a female partner who likes getting dressed up, I get off by wearing what I'd like to see a woman wear and jerking off in the mirror - sort of creating my fantasy. It's lonely, but it works at some level.

It's not about trying to pass as a woman but to emulate their sexiness - to participate in it. I had a brief affair with a woman really got off on it too, and it was great. I felt so free to be myself, and she also loved it, probably for somewhat different reasons. I love femininity and the power of female sexuality and its symbols.

I'm now pretty comfortable cross-dressing among other kinksters, but there's still a nagging anxiety that dominant males find me ridiculous or think I'm weak. That's connected with anxiety about being a submissive male in general. Lots of dominant men are totally cool and have no attitude about it, and that's fine. I still wish I had a female partner who was into it - that "perfect dominant" who likes exactly what I like - LOL.

1) -It's his kink. He's straight but likes dressing up in something soft and feminine. (this could be because he simply likes the way he looks, or the softness of the clothes/panties, or it's a stress reliever for him or he thinks he looks hot when dressed, or it makes him feel more submissive or he likes feeling feminine. Could be any of those or a combination. Each person is different.) He's not interested in forced bi, he just likes forced feminization.

2) -or he's straight and now likes crossdressing because he had a past experience with a woman who liked him dressed and he got hooked. (this doesn't sound like your case though. I think he would have told you if he had)

3) -or he's bi-curious and wants to dress up like a woman and possibly be made to have forced bi sex with a male.

4) -or he's sexually confused and thinks about men alot and wants to try being with a male because he thinks he may be gay (only likes men not women) and being dressed as a female helps him cope with his hidden nature.

5) -or he's transgendered and really wants to be a female. (he may also think that being with a male sexually is the ultimate way for him to prove that he's a woman)

6) he's straight and only dresses up because you want him to and it's your kink not his. he does what pleases his new domme.

I would guess that the male you knew was a combination of #1 and #3. (although there's a slight chance of #4. But only you and him know just how strong his m/m desires are).

Let me say that I've come across just about every one of the above but most of the male subs I know are #1 or #6. (with a few #3's)

Let's please not pretend that it is something that everyone should try. There's nothing wrong with it, but there's nothing especially right about it. It just "is", for those people who are into it... and we should just all be happy whenever we are lucky enough to find our own personal "trigger", feel comfortable enough to embrace it, and find someone to share it with.
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guy in a dress = faggot

Suck less cock.

I don't know about your ex, but there are some guys who are primarily heterosexual, and still enjoy some form of man-on-man sexual activity, especially if they're doing it to please a female partner.

Crossdressing isn't a very good indicator for attraction to men. Lots and lots of crossdressing men are completely heterosexual. A fair number of them find male sexuality revolting - part of their desire to be feminized and play "lesbian girlfriends."

Edited by - MistressMiranda on 2008-06-12 08:16:03