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But for me, I would rather she wear them not just because I find them sexy and because it excites me, but also because they make her feel sexy. A women in heels that is not feeling at all sexy herself does not do much for me.

Now because I'm not around 24/7, no need to wear heels 24/7 and let's face it, there are many places in my life that heels would not be practical.....like the beach, the gym or on the boat(quick way to end up with a broken ankle or torn ligament).

My guess as to the OP's prospective Dom. He is living purely in some kind of unrealistic fantasy world.

A few people have said it here but this was possibly a test to see how far you would go for him and matched with his strong kink. Better to find out ahead of time - forget it and move on - instead of later discovering that he has a strangling fetish.

That is beautiful - the kind of quote you see in magazines.

Being 5'10", and already standing taller than a good portion of men, I really don't wear heels. I never have.

I, too have bought pretty shoes because they were pretty. At work we instituted "hot shoe break" in order to wear the shoes that we love, but are unable to wear. I agree that if it was to be heels 24/7, then you would have to sit 24/7.

The only time I am not wearing heels is when I'm at the gym, running in the mornings, sleeping or going to amusement parks. I love them. They lvove me. Granted, I am VERY particular about the shoes I wear: the fit, the feel, the comfort, etc. I NEVER wear kitten heels or anything under four inches, and I am not too fond of platforms or wedges. I think it's much better to purchase one pair of top of the line shoes that throw money away on 10 pairs of cheap shoes.

HOWEVER: Any man who is serious about such a restriction before ever meeting you to getting to know you is a cyber whackoff.
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I wear a 9 1/2 as well, and find 3 inches much more attractive (and fun to wear!)

As for the nay-sayers about heels... I'm sure your podiatrist(s) has (have) hemmed and hollered, yelled and screamed about high heels (hell, some of them will say they're going to cause us to lose our little toes!)... but wearing the correct size shoe, and walking correctly in it is the first "step" (HA!). The walking correctly is the difficult part, since most women never learned the skill. The key to walking in high heels is not to clomp along, making as much noise as possible (good lord, I HATE clompers!), but to walk in a lady-like manner, gently swaying the hips... much more sexy than that power walk so many women adopt!

I know women (and indeed, used to be one) who wore high heels day in and day out. I frankly wouldn't have been seen without them, and didn't own a pair of flat shoes for years. I'm happy to say I suffered no ill effects (I still have my little toes, and my feet are just fine!) and can still wear high heels (up to 5 inches, which makes me a whopping 6'2 lol) without suffering.

Obviously, those that are suffering are wearing a shoe that's either too small, too narrow, or isn't the right shoe for them. Go get fitted... and not at Payless!

Bunny
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It's only Anti-Semitic if he doesn't enjoy it.
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It don't mean a thing, if it ain't got that swing.

It could be that she was a real shoe afficionado, as she had hundreds of pairs. Her thigh high ballet shoes I know must have cost a fortune. After they got divorced, my friend still had dozens and dozens of her shoes left. She culd not haul them all with her when she left. They lived in NJ and about two blocks away from the ocean, so another big problem was walking out onto the sand. I was told it was a problem, but I never heard how she solved that one.

Finally, my friend was not forcing his wife to do this. She was a switch, and was primarily dominant. I realize this thread is about the role of a cyber dom forcing a shoe behavior, and not so much about the footwear itself. Nevertheless, I just wanted to make the point that there are folks who seem to enjoy extreme foot wear and who suffer no ill effects. She was about 5-10 and 140 lbs so perhaps the strain from too much weight was not an issue.

Just sharing... No opinion.

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On the other hand, I really admire whose who can pull if off, like Sunshine and her clan. High heels are very sexy, but for me, they are for special occasions. And the day I wear stilettos is the day wind up on my butt again and again. Unless I'm lounging on a couch, leisurely pointing the heel at some poor boy's exposed neck.
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