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wicked_lilith	Posted: 2005-08-21 10:36
Forum Regular Canada 954 Posts	posslet: To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list I'm saddened by this rule. I'm a switch, who spends most of my time in the submissive role, living a 24/7 lifestyle AS a submissive. I think I could be a wonderful mentor. A shame that my Domme leanings would keep me from it. -- drop me a line at ohsparkylady -at- gmail.com

Longtimer	Posted: 2005-09-19 05:14
Forum Initiate United States 1 Posts	Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task, you ask?[/Green] I enjoyed My first bdsm play party in Atlanta in 1981, and the ensuing friendships I developed showed Me what had been missing from My relationships, as well. Since then, I've been through many "eras" of BDSM and D/s. As I live thru My late 50s with the collected memories and growing experiences of these years ( active BDSM all thru the Southeast and Southwest...just ask around about LT from the Sanctuary in Dallas, to 1763 in Atlanta, to Purgatory in Charlotte), it's becoming less important as to what I need from this life, but what the life needs back from Me. My cherished sub, star, and I host a longstanding munch in eastern Georgia and are active with many other groups in the Ga/Carolinas area. We are both anxious to see newcomers get clear, safe information on this life and its opportunity for growth and fulfillment. I think My perspective is vitally important to those that have no pre-Internet exposure. I feel it is very important to get back to the interface that experienced kinksters shared with newcomers in kink-friendly live venues in the 70s and 80s. I don't mean resurrecting some sort of "Old Guard" environment that I never saw the first time around. I DO mean the serious conversation that We were willing to share about how this was NOT the life-of-last-resort for those who have generally been unhappy elsewhere, nor was this the life for quick thrills beyond what the average hornytoad could scare up for himself at the local meat market. We were being as kind as We could be,saving much time and heartache, by telling them there were no quick fucks or quick fixes in the BDSM lifestyle. My value to newcomers now can be to instill the standards ( and patience) to have their kinky life match their professional life in terms of progressively more substantial contacts and experiences..more and more opportunity to validate the person inside. I can't do that by just taking advantage of you just for My personal pleasure as the Internet "trainers" might ( all dungeon play at the LT Kinky B&B starts with the installed limits of no penetration, no exchange of fluids). star and I can help, though, by sharing with you how to balance a life where obligation, duty, and responsibility DO matter, with a life where emotional, sensual, psychological, and spiritual flight, fantasy, and fulfillment can be paramount, in their own space. Write LT_the1 at yahoo, and My messengers are also listed. We have room for an afternoon or a WEEK! to explore all that you think and feel, in a safe, shockproof, welcoming home... LT

dark_angel924	Posted: 2005-09-25 12:36
Forum Regular United States 729 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) submissive How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) 17 years Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. i have been well trained in protocal. i have served 5 Masters and one play partner. i was given to serve many others. S0, i have a vast amount of experience to draw from. i deeply feel there are many new comers to this life style with no one to just ask questions to and get a qualified answer. i would be happy to do that. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring. i am not a 24/7 slave, however i come from the point of view that it is my position to fulfill Master's fantasy of what He thinks a submissive is. If this point of view works for you, ask away. Edited by - dark_angel924 on 2005-09-25 12:38:44

angel59mu	Posted: 2005-09-25 14:29
Forum Regular United States 645 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) Bottom, slave How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) I have been a slave for six years in RT and online for one year prior too that. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. Because I began on the internet I understand the problems incurred in that scenario. I also have come from the beginning, and learning protocols and lifestyle adaptations. This means I understand what it is to move across the country to as a new slave/sub and have to begin learning life from the very basics. I certainly don't have all the answers but I have experienced some of the ups and downs of this new experience. Now I am entering into a poly lifestyle which is new and all that I learned before is helpful to me. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. Everything being equal, I feel that all sub/slaves have challenges and deserve an open ear and heart from someone who cares and who will not condemn them. -- To put up with me is the first step in understanding me. "Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth." -- Benjamin Disraeli

subblybubbly	Posted: 2005-09-27 07:00
Forum Apprentice United States 141 Posts	I identify as a submissive. I have been in the lifestyle for 20 years. I would like to help others by providing details of my experiences and to answer questions the new submissive might have so they don't make the same mistakes I did. <That was a run-on sentence!> I'm a people person and I like to help! -- SB "Will Sub for Food"

pompom2000	Posted: 2005-10-17 03:54
Forum Initiate United States 24 Posts	I have had an intrest in the life stile for a long time but was in a realnship that couldnt handel it.Now that that has changed I dont ever see my self going nillna again.I have found a inner sadisfaction i cant even explain but now comes the hard part(training)Im a little apprehinsive of almost everyone.So far only one man Iv talkeed with so far hasent completly scared the living shit out of me right away,I had one guy e/mail me abought trees?(hu?)one guy talked abought prostution(ant going to jail sorry)Anouther sed he choke me unconshious if we ever met(What happened to hard limits?)Frome Everything I read and lissoned to THEIR HAS TO BE A GREAT DEAL OF TRUST!how the hell is someone going to trust some one who comes off so harsh right off the bat ,Dont ya think you shuld feel some one out first.I know im a newbi but Im the sub and their are a lot of sharks in here Im not looking to get hurt(well yes I am haha)you know whut I mean.isint their some kind of educate whin it comes to intro ductions or am i just being too dam prissy?Im just hoping everything works out with the dom i talking to and i dont have to read any more scarry e/mails.

submissive_sara	Posted: 2005-11-13 15:32
Forum Initiate Canada 10 Posts	Understanding myself was and still is overwhelming at times, as is understanding my need and desire to be submissive. I am actively searching for a Dom. Is there is a difference between a Dom and a Master? Submissive - Slave - Bottom? I have done a lot of reading and research and "by the book" I am considered submissive. I guess titles are just that .. titles .. the real meaning is between the partners? If anyone has any tips where to start .. what to look for? I would certainly appreciate it! ALOT!

AKAME	Posted: 2005-11-21 13:35
Forum Slut United States 1,044 Posts	book marking, and...Thanks, i needed this, hugzzz, me -- It's the fact that we are all different, that makes us the same.

bondagebaby3	Posted: 2005-11-28 20:16
Forum Apprentice United States 135 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) slave How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) In R/T for 2 years and Online for 2 years Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. I would like to simply offer myself as a shoulder to lean on, a listening ear and an open mind. I know what it is like to feel that you are all alone and different from everyone around you because I felt this way myself. I will listen, offer my opinions and try to help in any way that I can. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. I do have some experience with Gor and with High protocol. However, I would not feel comfortable mentoring for a S/M relationship and an on-line relationship, as I do not have much experience in these areas. Edited by - bondagebaby3 on 2005-11-28 20:26:52

jamjam317	Posted: 2005-12-12 00:19
Forum Initiate United States 6 Posts	I would like to learn to be sub from someone willing to teach. posslet: -~Submissive mentoring submissive mentoring list~- If you are seeking a mentor, simply email one of the people who have volunteered to mentor by posting to this list. As authored by jeunesse: Welcome to the sub-to-sub mentor list. This list is a list of experienced submissives that are willing to mentor other submissives. Please read the entire post before responding. Bondage.com is not affiliated with this list and holds no liability of any activities as the result of this list. What is a mentor? Contrary to popular belief, a mentor is not a trainer. It is someone who has experience in an endeavour that another person aspires to. They may be nothing more than a friendly ear, a sounding board, or person to ask for advice. They may also help you figure out for yourself how you want to fit in this lifestyle. The mentor/mentoree relationship is what you make of it. Many people have heard stories of uber-doms mentoring new subs and it has become a controversial issue. Many new submissives want and need an ear to go to. It is possible that another submissive ear will be the least likely to harbour alternative motivations. When I came to the lifestyle several experienced submissives helped me. I learned from them and in turn, I grew as a person. In truth, I still am learning from my submissive elder sisters. The submissives on this list are people who are willing to talk with a new submissive. They are not endorsed by bondage.com and have not been screened in any way. As a new submissive, it is your responsibility and choice to e-mail and speak with them until you find one you feel comfortable with. Take all advice as opinion and feel free to learn from the many voices that have been where you are right now. To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list (in support and advice there is a support list that is mixed in orientation). In addition, the submissives on this list must not use this list to procure a third for their dominant partners. If you are interested in being on this list please respond to this post with the following information: Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) [b]WHEN ANSWERING THIS QUESTION, DO NOT POST ABOUT UNDERAGE BDSM AND/OR SEXUAL ACTIVITY IN YOUR POST. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.[/b] Any person without the above information will be deleted from the list. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. Moderators note: As this thread is intended to help promote healthy relationships within the BDSM community, it is located in the Relationships forum. If you have any questions or queries regarding this list, please feel free to contact the moderators of the Relationships forum. -- ~The Friskity Possum Twisted and Tweak'd Till all wrapp'd around the toy shiny and sleek The Lesbian did grab her and tied down her hide And said its insertible with enough astroglide~ Maruspial Mayhem! Edited by - friskypossum_-S-_ on 2004-11-17 05:52:53

foxyana	Posted: 2005-12-12 00:55
Forum Regular United States 614 Posts	Im looking for a submissive mentor as I face some small troubles with my submission and would love to discuss them with a more experienced submissive, however I can not make initial contact since I m not a premium (no credit card, lol). Would someone please mentor me ?

tiemeup31	Posted: 2005-12-18 23:30
Forum Initiate United States 2 Posts	wayward_filly: I can be reached at healingdance@yahoo.com or waywardfilly@earthlink.net Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) submissive, slave How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL ) I have been in the public lifestyle for 5 years, although Ive had Ds relationships prior to knowing a defined word for them. I have mentored both online and offline for the past couple of years Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. As I said above, Ive been a mentor to others in the past and feel as though I have assisted others to enter the lifestyle in a good way. I have peer counseling experience , am part of the support team here and have been support for many in other places Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. I have worked a good bit with those who have been in abused relationships in the past in helping them sort out what is Ds and what is abuse -- "I'm not trying to counsel any of you to do anything really special except to dare to think, and to dare to go with the truth and to dare to love completely." Edited by - wayward_filly on 2004-12-15 17:32:11

jamjam317	Posted: 2005-12-27 23:50
Forum Initiate United States 6 Posts	jamjam317: I would like to learn to be sub from someone willing to teach. posslet: -~Submissive mentoring submissive mentoring list~- If you are seeking a mentor, simply email one of the people who have volunteered to mentor by posting to this list. As authored by jeunesse: Welcome to the sub-to-sub mentor list. This list is a list of experienced submissives that are willing to mentor other submissives. Please read the entire post before responding. Bondage.com is not affiliated with this list and holds no liability of any activities as the result of this list. What is a mentor? Contrary to popular belief, a mentor is not a trainer. It is someone who has experience in an endeavour that another person aspires to. They may be nothing more than a friendly ear, a sounding board, or person to ask for advice. They may also help you figure out for yourself how you want to fit in this lifestyle. The mentor/mentoree relationship is what you make of it. Many people have heard stories of uber-doms mentoring new subs and it has become a controversial issue. Many new submissives want and need an ear to go to. It is possible that another submissive ear will be the least likely to harbour alternative motivations. When I came to the lifestyle several experienced submissives helped me. I learned from them and in turn, I grew as a person. In truth, I still am learning from my submissive elder sisters. The submissives on this list are people who are willing to talk with a new submissive. They are not endorsed by bondage.com and have not been screened in any way. As a new submissive, it is your responsibility and choice to e-mail and speak with them until you find one you feel comfortable with. Take all advice as opinion and feel free to learn from the many voices that have been where you are right now. To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list (in support and advice there is a support list that is mixed in orientation). In addition, the submissives on this list must not use this list to procure a third for their dominant partners. If you are interested in being on this list please respond to this post with the following information: Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)probably each in there own way. How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)I am new to this lifestyle. [b]WHEN ANSWERING THIS QUESTION, DO NOT POST ABOUT UNDERAGE BDSM AND/OR SEXUAL ACTIVITY IN YOUR POST. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.[/b]I am looking to be a mentee. Any person without the above information will be deleted from the list. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. Moderators note: As this thread is intended to help promote healthy relationships within the BDSM community, it is located in the Relationships forum. If you have any questions or queries regarding this list, please feel free to contact the moderators of the Relationships forum. -- ~The Friskity Possum Twisted and Tweak'd Till all wrapp'd around the toy shiny and sleek The Lesbian did grab her and tied down her hide And said its insertible with enough astroglide~ Maruspial Mayhem! Edited by - friskypossum_-S-_ on 2004-11-17 05:52:53

jamjam317	Posted: 2005-12-27 23:53
Forum Initiate United States 6 Posts	I was taken back by the decision as well. I am new to this and was hoping to learn submission too. wicked_lilith: posslet: To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list I'm saddened by this rule. I'm a switch, who spends most of my time in the submissive role, living a 24/7 lifestyle AS a submissive. I think I could be a wonderful mentor. A shame that my Domme leanings would keep me from it. -- drop me a line at ohsparkylady -at- gmail.com

farra	Posted: 2006-01-02 04:07
Forum Newbie 50 Posts	in the past i have mentored other submissives with gaining knowledge, emphasizing safe, sane and consensual. i consider myself first as a submissive though have reached the levels of a slave with One... my experience is over 15yrs r/t and little OL(just not the same)... i believe the more we understand about ourselves and this lifestyle will help promote healthier individuals. actively i have been involved with dispelling the "unsavory" sterotyping from society to help gain more respect for our community.. being apart of a study that was published in the AMA... i look forward to hearing from any that wish help in understanding themselves as a whole.. softly, farra

Author

Topic

wicked_lilith

Posted: 2005-08-21 10:36

Forum Regular

Canada
954 Posts

posslet:

To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list

I'm saddened by this rule. I'm a switch, who spends most of my time in the submissive role, living a 24/7 lifestyle AS a submissive. I think I could be a wonderful mentor. A shame that my Domme leanings would keep me from it.
--
drop me a line at ohsparkylady -at- gmail.com

Longtimer

Posted: 2005-09-19 05:14

Forum Initiate

United States
1 Posts

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task, you ask?[/Green]

I enjoyed My first bdsm play party in Atlanta in 1981, and the ensuing friendships I developed showed Me what had been missing from My relationships, as well. Since then, I've been through many "eras" of BDSM and D/s. As I live thru My late 50s with the collected memories and growing experiences of these years ( active BDSM all thru the Southeast and Southwest...just ask around about LT from the Sanctuary in Dallas, to 1763 in Atlanta, to Purgatory in Charlotte), it's becoming less important as to what *I* need from this life, but what the life needs *back* from Me.

My cherished sub, star, and I host a longstanding munch in eastern Georgia and are active with many other groups in the Ga/Carolinas area. We are both anxious to see newcomers get clear, safe information on this life and its opportunity for growth and fulfillment.

I think My perspective is vitally important to those that have no pre-Internet exposure. I feel it is very important to get back to the interface that experienced kinksters shared with newcomers in kink-friendly live venues in the 70s and 80s. I don't mean resurrecting some sort of "Old Guard" environment that I never saw the first time around. I DO mean the serious conversation that We were willing to share about how this was NOT the life-of-last-resort for those who have generally been unhappy elsewhere, nor was this the life for quick thrills beyond what the average hornytoad could scare up for himself at the local meat market. We were being as kind as We could be,saving much time and heartache, by telling them there were no quick fucks or quick fixes in the BDSM lifestyle.

My value to newcomers now can be to instill the standards ( and patience) to have their kinky life match their professional life in terms of progressively more substantial contacts and experiences..more and more opportunity to validate the person inside. I can't do that by just taking advantage of you just for My personal pleasure as the Internet "trainers" might ( all dungeon play at the LT Kinky B&B starts with the installed limits of no penetration, no exchange of fluids).

star and I can help, though, by sharing with you how to balance a life where obligation, duty, and responsibility DO matter, with a life where emotional, sensual, psychological, and spiritual flight, fantasy, and fulfillment can be paramount, in their own space.

Write LT_the1 at yahoo, and My messengers are also listed. We have room for an afternoon or a WEEK! to explore all that you think and feel, in a safe, shockproof, welcoming home... LT

dark_angel924

Posted: 2005-09-25 12:36

Forum Regular

United States
729 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)
submissive
How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)
17 years

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.

i have been well trained in protocal. i have served 5 Masters and one play partner. i was given to serve many others. S0, i have a vast amount of experience to draw from.

i deeply feel there are many new comers to this life style with no one to just ask questions to and get a qualified answer. i would be happy to do that.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring.

i am not a 24/7 slave, however i come from the point of view that it is my position to fulfill Master's fantasy of what He thinks a submissive is. If this point of view works for you, ask away.

Edited by - dark_angel924 on 2005-09-25 12:38:44

angel59mu

Posted: 2005-09-25 14:29

Forum Regular

United States
645 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)
Bottom, slave

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)
I have been a slave for six years in RT and online for one year prior too that.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.
Because I began on the internet I understand the problems incurred in that scenario. I also have come from the beginning, and learning protocols and lifestyle adaptations. This means I understand what it is to move across the country to as a new slave/sub and have to begin learning life from the very basics. I certainly don't have all the answers but I have experienced some of the ups and downs of this new experience. Now I am entering into a poly lifestyle which is new and all that I learned before is helpful to me.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.
Everything being equal, I feel that all sub/slaves have challenges and deserve an open ear and heart from someone who cares and who will not condemn them.
--
To put up with me is the first step in understanding me.
"Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth." -- Benjamin Disraeli

subblybubbly

Posted: 2005-09-27 07:00

Forum Apprentice

United States
141 Posts

I identify as a submissive.

I have been in the lifestyle for 20 years.

I would like to help others by providing details of my experiences and to answer questions the new submissive might have so they don't make the same mistakes I did.

I'm a people person and I like to help!

--
SB

"Will Sub for Food"

pompom2000

Posted: 2005-10-17 03:54

Forum Initiate

United States
24 Posts

I have had an intrest in the life stile for a long time but was in a realnship that couldnt handel it.Now that that has changed I dont ever see my self going nillna again.I have found a inner sadisfaction i cant even explain but now comes the hard part(training)Im a little apprehinsive of almost everyone.So far only one man Iv talkeed with so far hasent completly scared the living shit out of me right away,I had one guy e/mail me abought trees?(hu?)one guy talked abought prostution(ant going to jail sorry)Anouther sed he choke me unconshious if we ever met(What happened to hard limits?)Frome Everything I read and lissoned to THEIR HAS TO BE A GREAT DEAL OF TRUST!how the hell is someone going to trust some one who comes off so harsh right off the bat ,Dont ya think you shuld feel some one out first.I know im a newbi but Im the sub and their are a lot of sharks in here Im not looking to get hurt(well yes I am haha)you know whut I mean.isint their some kind of educate whin it comes to intro ductions or am i just being too dam prissy?Im just hoping everything works out with the dom i talking to and i dont have to read any more scarry e/mails.

submissive_sara

Posted: 2005-11-13 15:32

Forum Initiate

Canada
10 Posts

Understanding myself was and still is overwhelming at times, as is understanding my need and desire to be submissive.

I am actively searching for a Dom. Is there is a difference between a Dom and a Master? Submissive - Slave - Bottom?

I have done a lot of reading and research and "by the book" I am considered submissive. I guess titles are just that .. titles .. the real meaning is between the partners?

If anyone has any tips where to start .. what to look for? I would certainly appreciate it! ALOT!

AKAME

Posted: 2005-11-21 13:35

Forum Slut

United States
1,044 Posts

book marking,
and...Thanks, i needed this,
hugzzz,
me
--
It's the fact that we are all different, that makes us the same.

bondagebaby3

Posted: 2005-11-28 20:16

Forum Apprentice

United States
135 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)

slave

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)

In R/T for 2 years and Online for 2 years

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.

I would like to simply offer myself as a shoulder to lean on, a listening ear and an open mind. I know what it is like to feel that you are all alone and different from everyone around you because I felt this way myself. I will listen, offer my opinions and try to help in any way that I can.

I do have some experience with Gor and with High protocol.

However, I would not feel comfortable mentoring for a S/M relationship and an on-line relationship, as I do not have much experience in these areas.

Edited by - bondagebaby3 on 2005-11-28 20:26:52

jamjam317

Posted: 2005-12-12 00:19

Forum Initiate

United States
6 Posts

I would like to learn to be sub from someone willing to teach.

posslet:
-~Submissive mentoring submissive mentoring list~-

If you are seeking a mentor, simply email one of the people who have volunteered to mentor by posting to this list.

As authored by jeunesse:

Welcome to the sub-to-sub mentor list. This list is a list of experienced submissives that are willing to mentor other submissives. Please read the entire post before responding.

Bondage.com is not affiliated with this list and holds no liability of any activities as the result of this list.

What is a mentor? Contrary to popular belief, a mentor is not a trainer. It is someone who has experience in an endeavour that another person aspires to. They may be nothing more than a friendly ear, a sounding board, or person to ask for advice. They may also help you figure out for yourself how you want to fit in this lifestyle. The mentor/mentoree relationship is what you make of it.

Many people have heard stories of uber-doms mentoring new subs and it has become a controversial issue. Many new submissives want and need an ear to go to. It is possible that another submissive ear will be the least likely to harbour alternative motivations. When I came to the lifestyle several experienced submissives helped me. I learned from them and in turn, I grew as a person. In truth, I still am learning from my submissive elder sisters.

The submissives on this list are people who are willing to talk with a new submissive. They are not endorsed by bondage.com and have not been screened in any way. As a new submissive, it is your responsibility and choice to e-mail and speak with them until you find one you feel comfortable with. Take all advice as opinion and feel free to learn from the many voices that have been where you are right now.

To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list (in support and advice there is a support list that is mixed in orientation). In addition, the submissives on this list must not use this list to procure a third for their dominant partners.
If you are interested in being on this list please respond to this post with the following information:

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)

[b]WHEN ANSWERING THIS QUESTION, DO NOT POST ABOUT UNDERAGE BDSM AND/OR SEXUAL ACTIVITY IN YOUR POST.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.[/b]

Any person without the above information will be deleted from the list.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.

Moderators note:

As this thread is intended to help promote healthy relationships within the BDSM community, it is located in the Relationships forum. If you have any questions or queries regarding this list, please feel free to contact the moderators of the Relationships forum.

~*The Friskity Possum Twisted and Tweak'd
Till all wrapp'd around the toy shiny and sleek
The Lesbian did grab her and tied down her hide
And said its insertible with enough astroglide*~

Maruspial Mayhem!

Edited by - friskypossum_-S-_ on 2004-11-17 05:52:53

foxyana

Posted: 2005-12-12 00:55

Forum Regular

United States
614 Posts

Im looking for a submissive mentor as I face some small troubles with my submission and would love to discuss them with a more experienced submissive, however I can not make initial contact since I m not a premium (no credit card, lol). Would someone please mentor me

tiemeup31

Posted: 2005-12-18 23:30

Forum Initiate

United States
2 Posts

wayward_filly:
I can be reached at healingdance@yahoo.com or waywardfilly@earthlink.net

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)

submissive, slave

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL
)
I have been in the public lifestyle for 5 years, although Ive had Ds relationships prior to knowing a defined word for them. I have mentored both online and offline for the past couple of years

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.
As I said above, Ive been a mentor to others in the past and feel as though I have assisted others to enter the lifestyle in a good way. I have peer counseling experience , am part of the support team here and have been support for many in other places

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.
I have worked a good bit with those who have been in abused relationships in the past in helping them sort out what is Ds and what is abuse

--
"I'm not trying to counsel any of you to do anything really special
except to dare to think, and to dare to go with the truth and to dare to
love completely."

Edited by - wayward_filly on 2004-12-15 17:32:11

jamjam317

Posted: 2005-12-27 23:50

Forum Initiate

United States
6 Posts

jamjam317:
I would like to learn to be sub from someone willing to teach.

posslet:
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If you are seeking a mentor, simply email one of the people who have volunteered to mentor by posting to this list.

As authored by jeunesse:

Welcome to the sub-to-sub mentor list. This list is a list of experienced submissives that are willing to mentor other submissives. Please read the entire post before responding.

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To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list (in support and advice there is a support list that is mixed in orientation). In addition, the submissives on this list must not use this list to procure a third for their dominant partners.
If you are interested in being on this list please respond to this post with the following information:

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)probably each in there own way.

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)I am new to this lifestyle.

[b]WHEN ANSWERING THIS QUESTION, DO NOT POST ABOUT UNDERAGE BDSM AND/OR SEXUAL ACTIVITY IN YOUR POST.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.[/b]I am looking to be a mentee.

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Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.

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~*The Friskity Possum Twisted and Tweak'd
Till all wrapp'd around the toy shiny and sleek
The Lesbian did grab her and tied down her hide
And said its insertible with enough astroglide*~

Maruspial Mayhem!

Edited by - friskypossum_-S-_ on 2004-11-17 05:52:53

jamjam317

Posted: 2005-12-27 23:53

Forum Initiate

United States
6 Posts

I was taken back by the decision as well. I am new to this and was hoping to learn submission too.

wicked_lilith:

posslet:

To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list

farra

Posted: 2006-01-02 04:07

Forum Newbie

50 Posts

in the past i have mentored other submissives with gaining knowledge, emphasizing safe, sane and consensual.
i consider myself first as a submissive though have reached the levels of a slave with One...
my experience is over 15yrs r/t and little OL(just not the same)...
i believe the more we understand about ourselves and this lifestyle will help promote healthier individuals. actively i have been involved with dispelling the "unsavory" sterotyping from society to help gain more respect for our community.. being apart of a study that was published in the AMA...
i look forward to hearing from any that wish help in understanding themselves as a whole..
softly,

farra

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