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Choux-fleurs:
Was wondering, for all you women who either would wear heels all day every day because your man says to or because you want to, or from the men who have this requirement for their female partners:

What do you (or they) wear when cleaning the house?
Heels...
Do you wear high heels when you have to get on your knees to scrub the kitchen floor? (Or assume any strenuous cleaning chore. Don't answer that you have a maid; tell me if you WOULD wear them.)
Yes, even with a maid, you still do things when she isn't there.
How about just vacuuming?[pink}Yes,
How about when doing any yard work? Back in the day, yes, or barefoot...tennis shoes now - broke too many heels and you get stuck in the dirt! and it must look ridiculous!
How about if you are going to Home Depot to buy lumber? Yes, especially then...all the guys break their necks to help you.
Do you wear heels in the winter, when it’s snowy? Icy? Yes, yes...
Do you wear heels if you are carrying around infants or small children regularly?...yes, of course.
Do you wear heels on your hardwood floors? Yes, but beware, if the heel tip comes off, your floor will be dimpled all over, and you will have no idea why....i wouldn't do it now
Do you wear heels if you’re going on, say, a walking tour where you know you’ll have no place to rest?i might, depends on the terrain, and maybe a lower heel, or maybe i would be smart and put on some tennies.
Do you wear high heels when you're wearing shorts?Yes!!!
Sweatpants? Don't wear sweats, so no here.
Do you wear them if you have the flu but have to get up (assume you also have to get dressed) for some reason? Yes, if i have to go out. i just love heels and wear them every chance i get, or go barefoot if i can. i also keep tennis shoes in the trucks, just in case. But, my all time favorite: High, high heels.

SatinThreads:...he tells me if I lived in his house I would wear heels all day every day. I thought he was joking and I said so. Oh no, he assured me he was very serious. High heels. All day. Every day. No discussion. No compromise. Once in a while he might feel merciful and let me... I got so frustrated I can't even remember what came after that.

Thorion:
WOW, this is one old-ass thread. After reading all the posts, I have some random thoughts, from a guy's perspective. Keep in mind, this assumes that you really are digging him, and otherwise want the relationship to work:

1. Guys say things that when taken at face-value are absurd or impractical but that sound (to him) highly erotic. To get around this, the lady can pretend to go along with the absurd request, but point out some impediment to fulfilling the request: "Ooooohh, baby, I'd love to wear high heels for you 24/7, but my feet are no longer capable of that..." Something like that will allow the lady to join the guy in his fantasy, but still convey the impossibility of making it happen. If it was me, I would not have asked him if he was joking. That probably made him feel self-conscious.

2. Lie, a little. "Baby, are you gonna fuck me 24/7? 'cuz when I wear my stilettos I get soooooo turned on!" This will knock him over the head and return to Earth. Insist that if you do this for him, he has, ummmm, some responsibilities to you, in return Note: It likely is not the case that wearing stilettos turns you on. Doesn't hurt to pretend, though.

3. A compromise would be to wear the heels (or whatever fetish gear) before and during sex, then take them off afterwards. Allow the fantasy to appear to be 24/7. Make comments to that effect. "Baby, put superglue in my shoes, so they'll never come off!" The guy will then have the orgasm of his life, and afterwards, when his brain returns to sanity, he remembers that they're uncomfortable for you and insists you take them off so that your body is good-to-go the next time playtime comes around. I'd bet money he was, uhhhhh, in a very aroused state while talking with you for hours, then he did something to, ummmm, aleviate that aroused state, and after that he would agree that wearing heels 24/7 is not practical.

To summarize, I'd suggest that not 100% of what a guy says is written in stone. There are ways to work around it, assuming that you really were interested in this guy at all, if the net is that he was otherwise an intelligent, powerful, confident, successful, loving person, with perhaps just a screw loose upstairs. Who doesn't have at least one screw loose? It just requires some role playing and being able to get into your partner's scene. Quick thinking and the non-judgmental offering of alternatives.

Have fun!

firedaughter:All the dancing around the top's ego that you suggest here would be a huge turn-off for me, and way too much work.