you can get a home colonic system as a matter of fact...i have one. the bucket the hose feeds from holds 4 gallons. yes, it's a big bucket.

and yes i've lived to tell about it, i've done it several times. but i've never used it as an aspect of play. it isn't that kind of aparatus, i don't believe. but the words "clean as a whistle" really hold a new meaning.

all enemas do for me (and i'm talking the red bag kind) is, er...get the ball rolling so to speak. they do not clean me out, merely incapacitate me for the remainder of the evening and make me all crabby and embarrassed. hey, but that's just me. i'd say i'm not doing it right but i'm pretty sure i know which hole's the objective...

but vixen, have fun!!! hee hee. and good luck!

amy
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looking forward to paying for my misbehavior.
the mitts are back on. blasted mitts. ah well, i forgot how to work my bits anyway.

--- I have to be honest I just don't get it.
--- I know why I am terrified of anal sex.
--- But an enema makes you cramp, void and
--- the smell is not very pleasant. I have
--- tried to view this in many different
--- ways and i just don't find it erotic at
--- all. Can someone PLEASE explain why people
--- even enjoy an enema?

Okay red. Here goes.

First things first. If anal sex "terrifies" you, it is unlikely that something even more intimately anal is going to float your boat. There is nothing wrong with you in this regard. You don't like (or haven't warmed up to) the idea of anal play. This is fine. But... let me give you a little insight into the mind of an anal whore (of which I am one).

Before I get to enemas, let's deal with anal sex (being probed, being fingered, having dildoes and butt plugs inserted, ass fucking, etc.) first. There is no mystique about anal sex when you realize the following: it feels damn good. That's it. Simple and sweet. Now if some guy or gal has tried to "ram it home" in your poor anal virginity, no... this does not feel good. In fact, it feels rather like someone took a knife and ran it up and down your insides. This is not good anal sex and the one who gives it this way (or who deflowers your ass this way) is a moron. Just like straight up fucking, the first time you try anal sex it will feel odd and not necessarily pleasurable. Most woman I've met did not turn into pussy hungry cock whores overnight. It takes some gentle finesse and emotional intimacy before you can appreciate straight up intercourse and the same definitely goes (if not more so) for anal sex.

Being taken anally has a unique pain and pleasure dynamic about it. There is, of course, the "going where you're not supposed to go" dynamic, but the fun stems from much more than this. Right off the top, your partner must have their back to you. This is a powerful dominant and submissive trigger. Likewise, I love the intimacy of cupping my partner's ass in my groin. This is really just a more sexual version of spooning. I get to appreciate my partner's body in a very unique way from this position. The physical fucking part also has a unique feeling because I can put my arms around my partner's belly, grab her ass cheeks and drive, play with her back and shoulders, and numerous other things that are provided by ass fucking positions.

The actual feeling of being filled "down there" is also unique and yummy. Depending upon whether you are being fucked with a cock or stretched with successively larger plugs, the feeling of being taken can go from a mild prick, to warm, deep pain, to a sharp, over the top shock that can be verbalized as "what the fuck, that hurts like hell". The trick is to taste all of these at the right time. Even "WTF, hurts like hell" can be a delicious tease if you know that your muscles will adjust and the pain will soon be replaced with warm feelings of being held and viciously (or softly) ravaged. Ass fucking definitely has an all encompassing feel about it and this is part of the attraction.

Most of the time, "hurts like hell" pain can be entirely avoided. I'm not going to go into the details of technique here (you can write privately if you want more on this). Suffice it to say that when topping, one of the things I find most fun about anal sex is varying the level of pain intensity and watching as my partner adjusts. Like all sex, a big part of this is communicating with my partner and learning her response and pleasure patterns. If someone were to give my ass a solid whack with no warm up, that would hurt a lot and it would not "put me in the mood". But, warm me up and get my endorphins running a bit and that whack turns into a deliciously pleasurable sexual treat. As when varying the degree of anal intensity, talking a spanking from a mild slap to levels that reach intolerable (but, that in the right frame of mind and body for the receiver are deeply moving) is an art.

One more thing before I get to the main course here (which is your enema question). I want to comment on your smell aversion. Think about the first time someone used a crop or cane on you. If they struck you with any force at all, you'd have gotten some welts. Welts on their own are horrid. They are a sign of abuse and of your body's reaction to that abuse. For most of us, the first time someone put a welt on us it was minimally an odd feeling if not one that triggered questions like "did I just get abused"? Once you learn to trust your partner and you realize that along with the welts come feelings of love and euphoria, your thoughts about welts are very different. In fact, for most of us, we often wear welts with pride afterwards. With one of my ex's, she could not get the stupid grin off her face every time she went to work wearing the results of our lovemaking. (Yes, she covered up the marks, but even still, just knowing they were there was enough to put a beautiful smile on her face and to make her feel extremely loved and cherished.)

So... the enema smell thing... no, it's not quite like welts, but you do get used to it. For us anal sluts, we keep very clean "down there" so smell and accidents are rarely issues. But hey, just like an occasional wrap around mark from a whip, anal sex (and enema) accidents do happen so you must be prepared to laugh at yourself.

Now we're at the main course. What do us enema lovers like about enemas? Well, oddly enough, the first thing isn't the physical stretching or feeling of being filled (both of which are delicious by the way). No, the first thing is sharing a level of intimacy with my partner that is usually forbidden. When I lube up my partner's ass to accept an enema tube, she looks so soft and available. It's a level of trust that is highly intimate and simultaneously fucking sexy as hell. Whether my partner is over my knee, face down, ass in the air, or in some other position that promotes access, the insertion of an enema tube brings with it powerful feelings of submission and dominance. Also, like the "cupping" I talked about in anal sex, I like playing with my partner's ass. The enema ritual provides many more ways for me to play with my partner's lovely bum so I see this as a huge plus.

The physical part of receiving an enema brings unique feelings of pain and pleasure, and of personal accomplishment. Before you even venture into enema territory, I'd strongly suggest you experiment with a partner whom likes playing with your ass. A big part of the enjoyment comes from knowing how much pleasure you're giving your partner. For you, you need to learn what feels good in your ass. An enema tube is not the right starting place for this. Learn to enjoy fingers, plugs, and cocks first before graduating to enemas. Like most everything, the best cursory advice I can give is "start small and slow and move up as you feel the need for more challenge".

This paragraph assumes you've followed my advice and arrived at the point where being anally probed and plugged is a turn on for you. Enemas fill your ass and belly in a way that is complete and totally encompassing. You will never get this same feeling of being completely stretched full from vaginal or anal sex. This *is* a huge part of the turn on. While the enema fluid is entering your body, the feeling is (pardon me...) truly sublime! During this, your partner can play with your body (kiss you, lick your breasts, play with your pussy). It is quite the sensation to feel your lover's external stimulation while your body is being internally stroked by the enema that is entering.

After you've accepted the enema, holding it becomes an entirely new dynamic. I like to insert a butt plug in my partner so that her anal muscles have something to hold onto and so she doesn't have to worry much about leaking. Now comes the fun part. Holding is definitely an exquisite taste and not one for everyone, but this is really where the fun begins. Your belly is full and you feel stretched beyond capacity. Cramps will start. These cramps may be mild or strong depending on the enema solution and temperature used. Enemas are a huge orgasm booster. Consider the pressure inside you and the fact that you must hold your anal muscles tightly to retain the liquid and you can see why. At this stage, all my light caressing of my partner stops and I focus on doing whatever I know gives her a gut wrenching orgasm. (Oh I like this part a lot!) Once you get your partner's sexual juices flowing towards orgasm, they tend to forget about the cramps. Keep playing and... ou la la... what beautiful sounds and expressions a girlie can make!

The worst part (for me if I've been given an enema, and for my partner if she is the receiver) is releasing the enema. There's no question that this can get a bit nasty. In a sense, this is the unfortunate price of admission. I will usually leave my partner in private (in the bathroom) during release. Unknown to my partner, I always stay but a few paces from the door. The reason I stay close to the door is that enemas are exhausting. I like to make sure my partner is safe and that I can be there in a split second if need be. Releasing the fluid can take upwards of an hour - it does not come out all at once. Likewise, there can be some nasty cramping of the "why the fuck did I do this?" variety, but the cramps tend to go away reasonably quickly after the first few releases.

The "afterwards" is the best part. My partner tends to fall into a deep sleep and I like watching the look of complete emptiness on her face. As a receiver of enemas myself, I can tell you the aftercare is exquisite, accompanied by warm feelings of tiredness, a great sense of accomplishment, and a deep feeling of being held by my partner.

I have not talked about technique at all in this post. Enemas can be fatal if done improperly. If you're going to play with enemas, read up as much as you can. There are many different kinds of enema solutions that are safe, but keep in mind that depending upon the PH balance of the liquid in relation to your body, your colon can ingest large amounts of whatever is in the liquid. The reverse can also happen - that you become extremely dehydrated afterwards. I am not a doctor nor do I understand the exact details of what goes on in the body. What I do know is that I've been playing with enemas for years and had no problems by using some careful sense and listening to my own and my partner's body.

Some people like to put alcohol in their enemas. Alcoholic enemas can be fatal if you put in too much alcohol. In this case *too much* is a lot less than you'd think. Your body absorbs alcohol in your colon at many, many times the rate it does when you drink it so even a tiny amount will get you drunk. A light alcoholic enema can be extremely relaxing, but I don't recommend you play with this (if at all) until you absolutely know what you're doing. (By know what you're doing I mean that you've studied charts that show exact proportions of alcohol that are safe.) In fact, I would go so far as to say avoid alcoholic enemas altogether. Ninety-nine percent of the enjoyment that comes from enemas has nothing to do with alcohol so why complicate matters.

I've read quite a few threads on enemas on bondage.com and none of them cover the details (both technical and emotional) that make me enjoy enemas so much. Even sites like sexuality.org (http://www.sexuality.org) seem to have more clinical descriptions that to my mind miss the mark by a lot. I'd started writing an email to true_redd_sub after her thread asking about enemas. Perhaps, instead of finishing this letter, I'll post a thread in the forums. Ah, if only there was more time in the day. :-)

redsilk44, I hope this gives you some insight into an enema lovers mind. Really, as with most sexual activities, a lot has to do with the approach and openness of your partner. If your partner is turned off by anal play (or worse yet, so excited he can't hold his dick back to find out what you enjoy) you'll probably not enjoy anal sex let alone enemas. All I can do is offer some insight and suggest that you find the right person to explore with if and when you become curious enough.

TrulySublime.

Edited by - TrulySublime on 2005-08-10 14:22:00

redsilk44, I would wish exactly that same extraordinary experience for you, with the right partner it is very much worth pursuing (and enjoying)!

Elphaba

Enjoyed your post a lot.

Thanks
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