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Usually when I am in a session I am naked and collared, and I enjoy the vulnerability of that, but being feminised can add a different dynamic.

The feel of feminine clothes against the skin can be erotic in itself, and I have also found it an exciting humiliation experience to have my masculinity stripped away by being feminised.

It is not something I tend to ask for in a session as I assume that most women would prefer not to feminise a man, but some dominatrixes I have served have decided to feminise me of their own accord.

People sometimes talk about 'forced feminisation' though really the man enjoys the experience and is a willing participant, however I have actually had a real experience of being feminised against my will, or rather the against my will part was being taken out in public feminised. To explain, for a while I wanted to experience a more authentic, pure form of slavery where I would not have any say in what happened to me. Much more like a real slave. To that end I signed a blackmail contract. From that point on I had to do as I was told or potentially face the consequences.

One day the lady who was dominating me decided to feminise me and make me go out in public like it. Whilst I enjoy being humiliated in front of other kinksters the idea of being humiliated on a normal street was very scary to me and I pleaded with her to let me off. However, she refused to let me off and in my blackmailed state I had no choice but to comply.

She drove me to a street where she made me get out of her car in front of other people and drop off her returned videos at the video shop. She had also warned me that she was going to drive around the corner as well and that I must wait for her return.

I felt hugely embarassed and vulnerable as I waited. In reality she just drove round the block and was keeping a close eye on me, but without my glasses on, or contact lenses in I didn't actually notice when her car pulled up again a little way away from me. As a result I stood there waiting for her much longer than I needed to!

She wrongly assumed I was really getting into the experience and was therefore voluntarily standing in the street for longer than I had to. Therefore she just waited in the car watching me!

Eventually she got out of her car and came up to me, and walked me up and down for a bit before she allowed me to return to the passenger seat and drove me back to her dungeon.

Despite being effectively forced into the situation against my will I was on a high of relief and adrenalin when I got back to the dungeon, and we laughed about it.

I knew her pretty well and i'm 90% sure she would never have really acted on the blackmail information I had given her, but it's that little 10% of doubt that made sure I was totally obedient and able to be pushed beyond my comfort zone.

It still excites me to think of it now, not the feminisation in itself, more the fact that she genuinely forced me to do something against my will. I'm glad for the experience, though whilst it was happening I was terrified!

Edited by - slave_jonathan_ on 2008-05-05 07:33:17

However feminisation is one of those things that is more often "forced" on male subs who have already been enjoying it on their own for years, or fantasising about doing so.

While there are Dommes around who "force femme" male subs who aren't into it, I believe that they are in the minority - if only because there are so many male subs around who are eager to do this.
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Well, of course there are lots of reasons, and they are different for different people. But he said, for himself, it's the humiliation factor. He does love to be humiliated. He said it makes him feel deeply submissive to do something so "naughty" just because I told him to.

To be honest I doubted this for a while. I really wondered if he liked it because he liked it. I had never been with a man who had interest in this, for whatever reason. It sorta freaked me out.

I gave it my best go for a while and indulged him. Secretly I was repulsed. (No offence to anyone, just not my thing.) I wasn't really sure of the right words to say so I didnt talk to him about it for a while. I love him and didn't want to make him feel bad in case he really was a genuine cross-dresser. But I finally just had to get it out.

The talk actually went well and we ended up working it out. I dress him up often now and do enjoy it. I guess I just needed to open my mind and look at things from a different angle. I am able to get a sadistic rush out of it now because I understand how it makes him feel - humiliated.

I do get burned out on it sometimes though and have to take a break from it for a week or two and really butch him up with a spiked collar and etc. Cuz that's really how I like him best.

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Women's clothes are foreign and the discomfort feeds their sense of control from the person feminizing them.

Silk feels sexy and being feminized gives them a good outlet for expressing this.

My little switchy partner for many years loved it for all of the above, but his basic motivation was he dug the whole humiliation factor. I once put him in the most matronly antique all in one girdle, hose and a nice scarf. Then berated him for being such a matronly, girly man thing. The end of the scene I allowed him to cum on my shoes......it was fun.

Humiliation is not a control thing in and of itself. I really don't know if I would get into a "grit your teeth I am doing it JUST to please you" thing.

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You would not believe who asked me that question tonight!

Bill O'Reilly?
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Lots of crossdressers, married and unmarried alike, have a difficult time finding someone who will feminize them. Some of them play alone, some see pro dommes (without regret even), some go to play parties. I'd suggest going to play parties. It's not instant gratification, but meeting people is much more to the point than staying home.