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| kitari_Ottawa | Posted: 2008-05-05 16:29 | |
Forum Apprentice Canada 466 Posts | I love serving the whims of a Mistress but have a hell of a time finding women who are looking for a female sub. Am I looking in the wrong places or are femme on femme relationships going extinct? | |
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| arayofsunshine | Posted: 2008-05-05 20:06 | |
black swan United States 10,664 Posts | I've know loads of lesbians who do it. But they are not necessarily interested in married women. There are a number of things which may be in operation here. -- Sunshine Daddy's owned HN/JB. Seeing the goodness in someone does not imply ignoring their difficult qualities or unskilled actions. Rather, we can fully acknowledge these difficulties, while at the same time we choose to focus on the positive. If we focus on the negative we will naturally feel anger, resentment, or disappointment. If we focus on the positive, we will forge connection to the person. Sharon Salzberg | |
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| SwitchySuzy | Posted: 2008-05-06 02:10 | |
Forum Slut Netherlands 1,182 Posts | I agree with sunshine here. On top of that, when I read your profile it's obvious your husband is also your master. One line in particular caught my attention: We both agree that a Mistress would complete my training and fulfill some desires that Ketik can not. Now I don't have anything against poly, as a matter of fact my husband and I are poly. But as a mistress this line would leave me feeling like I would be service topping you on behalf of your husband. Never to really be your mistress, just an addition to your experiences, there mostly to enhance your relationship with your real master. It sounds to me like it is all about you, or the both of you, the mistress mostly being a tool. She could never completely be your mistress, since you already have a master you are obviously deeply committed to. Your allegiance to him would always come first, meaning your allegiance to her would always be limited. Now there is nothing wrong with your desire per se. I can actually relate to it on a certain level. But I also think that of the few mistresses who don't mind their sub being married, ever fewer would go for a sub who is already collared to another. | |
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| CinderBurning | Posted: 2008-05-06 03:17 | |
| Forum Regular United States 999 Posts | I don't mind playing with the submissive of a friend, when it's a friend I like, care for and find sexy and the same can be said for their submissive. I do not take as a submissive a person who is collared by another. This is a gender neutral decision. I have several times played with male Dom Friends' female submissives, but never pretended to be their Mistress. Cinder I don't have fantasies, I have plans. | |
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| MistressMiranda | Posted: 2008-05-06 06:51 | |
Forum Maniac United States 23,453 Posts | I like the Victorian concept of a same-sex "companion." Those Victorians knew how to have their cake and eat it too. Of course, you have to have the emotional space within your existing relationship for longterm involvement with another woman in order to have a companion. If you just want a period of training, your master could engage the services of a professional. | |
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| Flashhart | Posted: 2008-05-06 10:00 | |
Forum Initiate United Kingdom 20 Posts | I'd have thought most Dommes would want the undivided attention of their male slave/ prisoner. If you've got some hot babe bound n gagged in the corner, it's going to be difficult to concentrate on doing what he's (I'm ) told. Just an idea from the chaps point of view... ;-) xxx | |
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| CinderBurning | Posted: 2008-05-06 10:33 | |
| Forum Regular United States 999 Posts | Flashhart: I'd have thought most Dommes would want the undivided attention of their male slave/ prisoner. If you've got some hot babe bound n gagged in the corner, it's going to be difficult to concentrate on doing what he's (I'm ) told. Just an idea from the chaps point of view... ;-) xxx Well... how about keeping the chap bound and gagged in the corner, while getting the undivided attention of a hot babe? There is definitely something appealing in that, from a Domme's point of view! And then, when the girl has gone home, the guy can be untied and used. he should be nicely stewed by then. Cinder I don't have fantasies, I have plans. Edited by - CinderBurning on 2008-05-06 10:34:14 | |
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| _caethes_ | Posted: 2008-05-06 10:44 | |
Blueberry pancakes United States 13,716 Posts | CinderBurning: Well... how about keeping the chap bound and gagged in the corner, while getting the undivided attention of a hot babe? There is definitely something appealing in that, from a Domme's point of view! And then, when the girl has gone home, the guy can be untied and used. he should be nicely stewed by then. Yes, I am not poly, but I would do that in friendly, loving play for Mistress friends and their sub men. As long as it is clear that I am not an interference in their relationship, we all win. | |
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| kitari_Ottawa | Posted: 2008-05-06 13:38 | |
Forum Apprentice Canada 466 Posts | You've all pointed out some obvious inconsistencies in my profile. When I logged on some moons ago (three years I think?), Ketik was trying on the Dom hat for my benefit. We've since married and had children and also have come to the realization that he's not really comfortable being a Dom and I'm not comfortable being his sub (mainly because of our relationship balance outside of BDSM). We are deeply connected and entirely in love. But I do not serve him as a Master. I have served a Mistress in the past and it was the most encompassing and blissful experience I've ever had. Granted, our situation is complicated: I could never serve full-time with a family at home to take care of. Thank you for your comments. I do believe the problem is with my lack of clarity in both my profile and my thinking. I'll be working over the next few days to refine my thoughts and my words. | |
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| lezswitch09 | Posted: 2008-05-06 15:36 | |
Forum Regular United States 862 Posts | MistressMiranda: I like the Victorian concept of a same-sex "companion." Those Victorians knew how to have their cake and eat it too. Of course, you have to have the emotional space within your existing relationship for longterm involvement with another woman in order to have a companion. If you just want a period of training, your master could engage the services of a professional.
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| MistressMiranda | Posted: 2008-05-06 16:47 | |
Forum Maniac United States 23,453 Posts | kitari_Ottawa: Thank you for your comments. I do believe the problem is with my lack of clarity in both my profile and my thinking. I'll be working over the next few days to refine my thoughts and my words. It can still be tricky to find what you're looking for, even when you're perfectly clear. Best wishes! | |
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| Flashhart | Posted: 2008-05-08 03:37 | |
Forum Initiate United Kingdom 20 Posts | CinderBurning: [quote]Flashhart: I'd have thought most Dommes would want the undivided attention of their male slave/ prisoner. If you've got some hot babe bound n gagged in the corner, it's going to be difficult to concentrate on doing what he's (I'm ) told. Just an idea from the chaps point of view... ;-) xxx Well... how about keeping the chap bound and gagged in the corner, while getting the undivided attention of a hot babe? There is definitely something appealing in that, from a Domme's point of view! And then, when the girl has gone home, the guy can be untied and used. he should be nicely stewed by then. Cinder I don't have fantasies, I have plans. Sounds like fun. Put me down for a 'stewing'... | |
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| MistressMiranda | Posted: 2008-05-08 10:01 | |
Forum Maniac United States 23,453 Posts | Flashhart:
Just clean up after yourself. Edited by - MistressMiranda on 2008-05-08 10:05:09 | |
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