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1) If he's not into the pain then pain would be the best teacher. It doesn't have to be horribly painful just to where you will make your point and if he goes to do it again he will remember it.

2) There most likely are things that you can help him with without being there. Take it one step at a time, start small and work your way up. You don't have to correct all his behavior at once, do you?

3) You have to be more specific if you want help with the role play. Does he like the original Star Trek, Next Generation, Voyager??? Either way try to google it and then costume stores are great for that stuff or get creative and use thrift store things. If he's into Next Generation and you're looking for an idea, try something with Q, he always made things interesting on Star Trek.

Lots of luck.

Have a great day and good luck finding your bliss, sue

1. I'm not a masochist but still get a kick out of a flogging or spanking.... its just a case of finding pain levels. But for a totally non pain punishment how about chastity?
2. Suggestion to start small...and talk about which areas he means - and maybe include a couple of others as well...
3. Never been into Star Trek personally... but you could get hold of an outfit then kink it up for him...
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Edited by - sparkle_BGD333 on 2008-08-26 01:51:19

some use the ignore feature, some punish with things the sub doesn't like...spanking, pain, etc...how else do you make him not wish to do whatever it was he did against your wish's?

#2. My honey recently asked me to help him with some other areas of control in his life. Now that is all fine and dandy except it would mean we would need to move into a 24/7 relationship. I am not so sure that I am ready for that nor he. Suggestions?
why would it mean 24/7? why not put a cock cage on him? that could be more control without living with him.

#3 Finally, I want to set up some scenes to play with my honey/sub....he is into the whole scifi/star trek thing. Could any of you give me ideas to how to go about this.
have you considered playing caption punishing someone for whatever, maybe being a klingon and "capturing" him. the klingons are a fierce race. you could be a way advanced race that gets him in "trade", his slavery for your technology.
why not have him "visit" your advanced world where people are encouraged to experiment with sexual holograms?
you could "recieve" him on accident in a transporter accident.
have you ever watched any of the star trek shows at all because it shouldn't take many episodes before ideas start on thier own in your head.
hugzzz,
me

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1) there are plenty of ways that you can punish him while not resorting to actual pain. Perhaps humiliation is the key here.

#2. My honey recently asked me to help him with some other areas of control in his life. Now that is all fine and dandy except it would mean we would need to move into a 24/7 relationship. I am not so sure that I am ready for that nor he. Suggestions?

2) see what areas he would like that control in and see what you can do. if it requires 24/7 then let him know that it would not be possible at this moment. The promise of one day taking control in this way may be used to ensure obedience.

#3 Finally, I want to set up some scenes to play with my honey/sub....he is into the whole scifi/star trek thing. Could any of you give me ideas to how to go about this.

I can think of loads:

1) pretend you catch him being a peeping tom and threaten to expose him unless he does everything you tell him to.

2) female boss, male subdordinate.

3) Roman slave to female governess.

Role play needn't be sci-fi or star trek. just use your imagination

May the force be with you, uh...I mean good luck.

denial of contact or his favorite thing to do for/with you for 'x' amount of time.

writing an essay on why what they did that requires punishment, i.e.
what went wrong and on whose end
what can prevent it from happening again
what is wrong in your relationship, in his eyes, that would warrant/justify his insubordination
what he would do to himself if he were in your shoes and why, etc.

tuck him away like an object, rather than a person, i.e., put him in a closet, etc. for some 'alone' time; to think about whether or not he truly wants to submit to you.

got a honey-do list? something that he loathes doing? if not, create one based on what you know he dreads doing more than anything in the world.

i have no idea what 'other areas of control' he wishes from you, so i can't comment on it or why it would be 'necessary' to become 24/7 in order to accomplish it. if he's looking for a micro-manager, you could do that from 500 miles away, that is, if he's submitting to you and your desires and not to his own whims.

as far as the star-trek/role play, hell, i'd be janeway or whatever her name is, and he'd be my computer program that i could turn off and on like a whim, such as the halogram doctor. then i'd proceed with the whole medical play realm of things because it's hot!
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