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Now a lot of my BDSM fanasys have involved men, however the thought of actually seriously doing anything with men turns me off, and makes me sick. After what happened tonight I felt like puking. I think the fantasys are just because i think of men as more dominate in general, but after tonight Im a bit confused. So like what the hell is up with me? am I like reverse bi-curious or some shit?

So here's what I think: Just because you think that a guy/girl is hot or you think about fucking them doesn't make you gay or straight, it's who you could actually be in a relationship with. With that thought I say; I'm not a closeted bisexual, I can not ever picture myself in a relationship with a woman. I could picture myself having sexual relations with a woman but dating, cohabitating, life partner type of relationship no I don't think I could go there.

Thats just my personal take on it, some people say I'm bi curious, sone say I'm a closeted bisexual. What ever and just to be clear I have a family member who's bi and my best friend is gay so I'm not homophobic either. Best wishes and hope that helps a little.

Have a great day and good luck finding your bliss, sue

You wanted her to use a strap on, she wasn't, and so your mind wandered to another form of what you were after. It doesn't sound at all like it was a guy you were wanting, it was just his kit.

Don't forget that we are incredibly conditioned and primed by what we see and hear all the time. It's perfectly understandable that you unconsciously bringing to mind something that relates to what you were wanting. It was more than likely just a memory trigger of something you saw on TV or in a film.

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You have a problem, all right. But not a lesbian problem, a personal problem. Don't to that to your partner. It's not nice.
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What if this person happened to have a desire to be with a guy, in a fantasy sense? Is a betrayal of her lesbian nature/relationship/lover? Or maybe it's no big deal?

I guess if you construct sexuality as a test of faith, where if your mind ever strays you've been impure, then having a stray gay or hetero thought could be problematic. But what if your sexuality is a general inclination? Or what if it is a practice? Maybe being "gay" means your lover is the same sex as you (or even possibly gender, if we choose to unbundle those).

sagehawk, if you thought of a guy at that moment fucking you, and it got you hot--what's the problem? Other than conflicting with some paradigm of what being "really" gay is, how is it a problem? What if you are like 99.99% gay and once a year you think about a guy fucking you?

So what?
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So ummm... hetro-phobic much? If you're fantasizing about it, then go GET SOME DICK already! I actually had gay female roommate about 10 years ago who every so often craved a man, so you may be like her. She'd pounce on some cock for a bit, then go back to being a snatch monster. I always knew when she was on the prowl for some penis because she'd start dressing real feminine and wearing make-up. After she got some, then the hunt for cunt was back in full swing. We'd laugh about it.

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Now you hetro side may be coming out.

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