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lessthaninnocent	Posted: 2008-09-02 11:34
Forum Apprentice United Kingdom 182 Posts	The other day me and Master were playing very lightly. It was all going very well and I was having lots of fun. He got out the big purple vibrator, yes it's big and oddly shaped like a seal and I don't like it, but I've taken it before and was quite happy to obey. He was slowly working it in, when all of a sudden I started sobbing uncontrollably. It was uncomfortable but not painful and definitely not too much. We have a safe word but the sobbing was so sudden I didn't even have time to use it.I stopped crying after about 5 minutes. Does anyone have any idea why this may have happened? At the time I was stressed but during the scene I didn't have anything apart from Master on my mind. I felt like such a failure afterwards, as usual Master was lovely about it, but I'm worried it will happen again. If this is in the wrong part of the forums please move it.

trusub4u1062	Posted: 2008-09-02 16:18
Pepperwhore United States 3,112 Posts	It could have been the stress... Even though you had him on your mind...the underlying things are still there... It could also be PMS... -- In time as a relationship grows and trust is built...a slave emerges There's a small thin line between pleasure and pain...

ArabSlaveGirl	Posted: 2008-09-03 00:51
Forum Maniac United Kingdom 4,138 Posts	Ive sometimes burst into tears for no apparent reason and its usually down to other stress in my life which I had buried. Its a healthy way of releasing tension and if Im stressed about big stuff then he has been known to purposely make me cry. I always feel great afterwards. Asg x -- Property of Soul_Sadist

lessthaninnocent	Posted: 2008-09-03 10:25
Forum Apprentice United Kingdom 182 Posts	Thanks guys thats put my mind at rest. I'm much less stressed now and our sessions together have had no problems.

Celeste43	Posted: 2008-09-03 11:48
Forum Maniac United States 11,086 Posts	You may also be getting sick. In the beginning, I would melt down from emotional stuff so the catharsis was sometimes helpful. These days it's a sign that I'm just not feeling well. -- There is no should to the human heart. PB's girl

jezebel222	Posted: 2008-09-03 17:21
shameless hussy United States 4,077 Posts	It could be ANYTHING. But I give those, like you, credit. Those who live this all the time. I was seeing someone on a regular basis and it got to the point where I cried over everything. I think it was my mind saying I just couldn't take the abuse anymore. I'm a part timer for sure.

blue_moon69	Posted: 2008-09-03 18:02
Forum Initiate United States 24 Posts	being sexual is being vulnerable at those moments. Sometimes crying is a way of release, pain, stress, happiness, etc. Also you should consider that you were doing something that you didnt like. I don't know if this might have had any influence in the situation. You need to look inside yourself in this one.

slowlane	Posted: 2008-09-03 19:28
Forum Slut United States 1,185 Posts	you hated purple dinasours growing up? -- Enjoy the play....Enjoy the day....onward, onward and Enjoy

onesassylassy	Posted: 2008-09-03 21:24
Forum Maniac United States 3,398 Posts	I agree with the others - it is most likely a release of the stress. I've had similar things happen... something that seems totally innocuous and pleasurable, and suddenly tears from out of no where. The first time, Limper (stunned) asked what was wrong, and I sobbed rather pitifully, "I don't knooooowwww". Yup - I felt pretty stupid at the time, but afterward, when the tears and stress were gone, everything was ok. Now, when the tears come out of the blue, like that, he asks if I'm ok, and we either go on with what we were doing, if I feel like I am able, or stop and snuggle.

jewels20002	Posted: 2008-09-03 22:18
Forum Regular Canada 591 Posts	. Edited by - jewels20002 on 2009-01-04 11:47:40

sparkle_BGD333	Posted: 2008-09-04 00:50
Forum Slut Spain 1,606 Posts	I'll agree with the above and add that I also sometimes sob when Master starts to flog me, not because it hurts, but my body seems to just have that sort of reaction. I have to get my breathing under control when being played with, otherwise it seems to affect me this way. -- Sparkle ..... sub to Master Talisman (BGD333) http://www.slaveregister.com/certificate/726129

taboosub	Posted: 2008-09-04 02:03
Forum Initiate United Kingdom 11 Posts	I cry frequently, over apparently very trivial things and at very inappropriate times! I put it down to hormones and intense emotions. I hope that you don't worry unecessarily about it x

lurlene_la_roche	Posted: 2008-09-04 08:22
Forum Maniac Australia 5,071 Posts	taboosub: I cry frequently, over apparently very trivial things and at very inappropriate times! I put it down to hormones and intense emotions. I hope that you don't worry unecessarily about it x Yep, I'm a big crier. -- I'm into gratuitous sax and senseless violins ... but I can't find them on the checklist. *************************************** "Well behaved women rarely make history." Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

sweetsubmissivelove	Posted: 2008-09-04 09:32
Forum Slut United States 1,060 Posts	i find this topic almost fascinating. Thanks for posting this...i would have been really shocked if this happened to me...i sure would not have understood it, & it would have scared me silly. i hope there are a lot more posts about it. -- "Love her madly... .........everything she does is magic." We are disturbed not by what happens to us, but by our thoughts of what happened.~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ "The grass is always greener where You water it."

pensive	Posted: 2008-09-04 10:13
Forum Maniac United States 6,094 Posts	my guess is that you got into some deep emotion or memory and it overwhelmed you at a vulnerable time. '...I felt like such a failure afterwards...' i really don't see this in that light. you are ok. did he talk with you about it happening again? any input from his side would help you to manage the feelings.

bearballs5	Posted: 2008-09-04 10:24
Forum Slut United States 1,166 Posts	Was it right after Farve was traded to the Jet's? Sorry, bad joke. I do hope you find some comfort in all this excellant advice. Your fine. -- 90% of this game is half mental--Yogi berra

Author

Topic

lessthaninnocent

Posted: 2008-09-02 11:34

Forum Apprentice

United Kingdom
182 Posts

The other day me and Master were playing very lightly. It was all going very well and I was having lots of fun. He got out the big purple vibrator, yes it's big and oddly shaped like a seal and I don't like it, but I've taken it before and was quite happy to obey. He was slowly working it in, when all of a sudden I started sobbing uncontrollably. It was uncomfortable but not painful and definitely not too much. We have a safe word but the sobbing was so sudden I didn't even have time to use it.I stopped crying after about 5 minutes.

Does anyone have any idea why this may have happened? At the time I was stressed but during the scene I didn't have anything apart from Master on my mind.

I felt like such a failure afterwards, as usual Master was lovely about it, but I'm worried it will happen again.

If this is in the wrong part of the forums please move it.

trusub4u1062

Posted: 2008-09-02 16:18

Pepperwhore

United States
3,112 Posts

It could have been the stress...

Even though you had him on your mind...the underlying things are still there...

It could also be PMS...
--

In time as a relationship grows and trust is built...a slave emerges

There's a small thin line between pleasure and pain...

ArabSlaveGirl

Posted: 2008-09-03 00:51

Forum Maniac

United Kingdom
4,138 Posts

Ive sometimes burst into tears for no apparent reason and its usually down to other stress in my life which I had buried. Its a healthy way of releasing tension and if Im stressed about big stuff then he has been known to purposely make me cry. I always feel great afterwards.

Asg x
--

Property of Soul_Sadist

lessthaninnocent

Posted: 2008-09-03 10:25

Forum Apprentice

United Kingdom
182 Posts

Thanks guys thats put my mind at rest. I'm much less stressed now and our sessions together have had no problems.

Celeste43

Posted: 2008-09-03 11:48

Forum Maniac

United States
11,086 Posts

You may also be getting sick. In the beginning, I would melt down from emotional stuff so the catharsis was sometimes helpful. These days it's a sign that I'm just not feeling well.
--

There is no should to the human heart.

PB's girl

jezebel222

Posted: 2008-09-03 17:21

shameless hussy

United States
4,077 Posts

It could be ANYTHING.

But I give those, like you, credit. Those who live this all the time. I was seeing someone on a regular basis and it got to the point where I cried over everything. I think it was my mind saying I just couldn't take the abuse anymore.

I'm a part timer for sure.

blue_moon69

Posted: 2008-09-03 18:02

Forum Initiate

United States
24 Posts

being sexual is being vulnerable at those moments. Sometimes crying is a way of release, pain, stress, happiness, etc.
Also you should consider that you were doing something that you didnt like. I don't know if this might have had any influence in the situation. You need to look inside yourself in this one.

slowlane

Posted: 2008-09-03 19:28

Forum Slut

United States
1,185 Posts

you hated purple dinasours growing up?
--

Enjoy the play....Enjoy the day....onward, onward and Enjoy

onesassylassy

Posted: 2008-09-03 21:24

Forum Maniac

United States
3,398 Posts

I agree with the others - it is most likely a release of the stress. I've had similar things happen... something that seems totally innocuous and pleasurable, and suddenly tears from out of no where. The first time, Limper (stunned) asked what was wrong, and I sobbed rather pitifully, "I don't knooooowwww". Yup - I felt pretty stupid at the time, but afterward, when the tears and stress were gone, everything was ok. Now, when the tears come out of the blue, like that, he asks if I'm ok, and we either go on with what we were doing, if I feel like I am able, or stop and snuggle.

jewels20002

Posted: 2008-09-03 22:18

Forum Regular

Canada
591 Posts

Edited by - jewels20002 on 2009-01-04 11:47:40

sparkle_BGD333

Posted: 2008-09-04 00:50

Forum Slut

Spain
1,606 Posts

I'll agree with the above and add that I also sometimes sob when Master starts to flog me, not because it hurts, but my body seems to just have that sort of reaction. I have to get my breathing under control when being played with, otherwise it seems to affect me this way.
--

Sparkle ..... sub to Master Talisman (BGD333)

http://www.slaveregister.com/certificate/726129

taboosub

Posted: 2008-09-04 02:03

Forum Initiate

United Kingdom
11 Posts

I cry frequently, over apparently very trivial things and at very inappropriate times! I put it down to hormones and intense emotions. I hope that you don't worry unecessarily about it x

lurlene_la_roche

Posted: 2008-09-04 08:22

Forum Maniac

Australia
5,071 Posts

taboosub:
I cry frequently, over apparently very trivial things and at very inappropriate times! I put it down to hormones and intense emotions. I hope that you don't worry unecessarily about it x

Yep, I'm a big crier.
--

I'm into gratuitous sax and senseless violins ... but I can't find them on the checklist. ***************************************

"Well behaved women rarely make history." Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

sweetsubmissivelove

Posted: 2008-09-04 09:32

Forum Slut

United States
1,060 Posts

i find this topic almost fascinating.
Thanks for posting this...i would have been really shocked if this happened to me...i sure would not have understood it, & it would have scared me silly.

i hope there are a lot more posts about it.

--

"Love her madly...
.........everything she does is magic."

We are disturbed not by what happens to us, but by our thoughts of what happened.~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ "The grass is always greener where You water it."

pensive

Posted: 2008-09-04 10:13