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kronos25	Posted: 2009-07-02 13:19
Forum Initiate United Kingdom 7 Posts	I suppose this is really a question of confidence and integrity, aimed at both dommes and subs. For the dommes: Do you like to disintegrate a male sub into a state where his confidence is shattered or do you like him to proud in his submission? For the subs: How hard and soft are your limits? To what degree do you separate your submission from your own self-worth? These questions are wide open. Variety is the spice of life.

HerMastersAngel	Posted: 2009-07-02 21:09
Forum Initiate United States 4 Posts	I guess as a switch I can answer both sides of this question. As a dom I would rather my sub be proud of himself for pleasing me....I do not believe in breaking someone down so completely. When I switch i have a breaking point and while edging the point is cool i would not want a dom to pull me to that level. As a sub I would say that some limits are easier to push through then others... I do have hard set limits on a few things. I would never break these few self rules, so I suppose I put myself above my submission, in that aspect. But on the other hand I would let someone hurt me for my pleasure and their's. It depends on what particular issue it was as to how i would separate it.

Mistress_Dez	Posted: 2009-07-03 02:34
Forum Regular United States 879 Posts	kronos25: I suppose this is really a question of confidence and integrity, aimed at both dommes and subs. For the dommes: Do you like to disintegrate a male sub into a state where his confidence is shattered or do you like him to proud in his submission? Honestly,I do enjoy watching them squirm into mush. It's fun to laugh at him. By the way,you should have mentioned a "her" since not all Dommes like men. But for the after effect,I do appreciate a well satisfied and happy sub. For the subs: How hard and soft are your limits? To what degree do you separate your submission from your own self-worth? It depends on what limits. And for most of my limits they are very strict and non-negotiable. I never add my own self-worth to my submission. That would be quick way to self-destruction and S&M is my only healthy coping skill,I would not want to endanger that. These questions are wide open. Variety is the spice of life. -- You either take it all or reverse roles. If You choose to reverse roles....You better be fucking good at it.

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kronos25

Posted: 2009-07-02 13:19

Forum Initiate

United Kingdom
7 Posts

I suppose this is really a question of confidence and integrity, aimed at both dommes and subs.

For the dommes: Do you like to disintegrate a male sub into a state where his confidence is shattered or do you like him to proud in his submission?

For the subs: How hard and soft are your limits? To what degree do you separate your submission from your own self-worth?

These questions are wide open. Variety is the spice of life.

HerMastersAngel

Posted: 2009-07-02 21:09

Forum Initiate

United States
4 Posts

I guess as a switch I can answer both sides of this question. As a dom I would rather my sub be proud of himself for pleasing me....I do not believe in breaking someone down so completely. When I switch i have a breaking point and while edging the point is cool i would not want a dom to pull me to that level.
As a sub I would say that some limits are easier to push through then others... I do have hard set limits on a few things. I would never break these few self rules, so I suppose I put myself above my submission, in that aspect. But on the other hand I would let someone hurt me for my pleasure and their's. It depends on what particular issue it was as to how i would separate it.

Mistress_Dez

Posted: 2009-07-03 02:34

Forum Regular

United States
879 Posts

kronos25:
I suppose this is really a question of confidence and integrity, aimed at both dommes and subs.

For the dommes: Do you like to disintegrate a male sub into a state where his confidence is shattered or do you like him to proud in his submission?

Honestly,I do enjoy watching them squirm into mush. It's fun to laugh at him. By the way,you should have mentioned a "her" since not all Dommes like men. But for the after effect,I do appreciate a well satisfied and happy sub.

For the subs: How hard and soft are your limits? To what degree do you separate your submission from your own self-worth?

It depends on what limits. And for most of my limits they are very strict and non-negotiable. I never add my own self-worth to my submission. That would be quick way to self-destruction and S&M is my only healthy coping skill,I would not want to endanger that.

These questions are wide open. Variety is the spice of life.

You either take it all or reverse roles. If You choose to reverse roles....You better be fucking good at it.

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