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I have recently (within the past nine months) realized that I am emotionally and sexually attracted to both sexes.

I generally deal with sexual frustration by reading erotica or fanfiction. However a few months ago I stumbled across some fanfiction that was D/s. Because the pairing in the story was a personal favorite I didn't really pay attention to the warnings attached to the story.

I REALLY liked the story. I've started reading more and more stories that feature D/s and having really liked them as well.

The thing that is making me confused is that while the stories are great I don't really know anything about D/s much less why the stories are so intriguing. I read a new author yesterday and in their author's notes they recommended this site.

So I guess my question is how do I figure out what is going on in my head, and know that I've figured at least this much about myself will it always effect my so far non-existent sex life. This is really king of important to me right now because I've been falling for someone for about a year now and have been trying to get enough courage to ask this person out.

So yeah, I really kinda of confused and nervous. Any advice?

Just looked at your profile and it is not filled out so it is hard to tell if you are male or female and more dominant or submissive. I suggest you fill it out if you want people to take time to answer your questions. We get so many trolls who stop by because they are horny, and leave odd questions & messages that we do not take anyone’s question seriously unless they fill their profile out, so that we know with whom we are dealing.

As to figuring out what you want and what's fiction like you've been reading and where reality lies, stick around, be patient and do your research. Read the forums, you'll gain great insight into BDSM, M/s & D/s relationships, and most importantly human nature.
Despite what much of your mail will tell you, you do not have to prove to be dominant or submissive like anybody else. There are as many types of dominant & submissive relationships as there are people on this forum. We all, with our partners, forge our own version of BDSM.

Some just have D/s as part of their sex life while others live it 24/7. Some are just interested in the sado-masochistic part, while others enjoy just the power exchange between sub & dom. Others still want all of it. So it’s up to you to decide which aspects you want.

Cheers
Enjoy the ride.

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What she said.

did you fancy the D or the s or the D/s
in your erotica and fanfiction adventures?

also, try being your own author and see what
you write and how it expresses your inner person.