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| MaximusBDSM | Posted: 2009-09-27 15:37 | |
Forum Initiate Latvia 11 Posts | I have a hard time on finding female switch about the same age.  It makes me feel lonely sometimes, especially when I see the high activism in older ages. bondage.com isn't exception. Any ideas? Thanks! Edited by - MaximusBDSM on 2009-09-29 15:02:09 | |
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| tickleobject | Posted: 2009-09-27 16:56 | |
Anti-social Drama Vulture   United States 6,244 Posts | Well, geez, when I was in the 18-25 year age range, BDSM was very popular with me! -- It's lonely being a cannibal. Tough making friends. You know, a little orphan girl once told me that the sun will come out tomorrow. Her adoptive father was a powerful billionaire, so naturally I repressed the urge to laugh in her face. Men seldom make passes at female smart asses. Voodoo! Yes, it's a safe, economical way to inflict evil on the world. | |
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| MrRodgers | Posted: 2009-09-27 18:31 | |
Forum Maniac United States 2,824 Posts | MaximusBDSM: I have a hard time on finding female switch about the same age. It makes me feel lonely sometimes, especially when I see the high activism in older ages. bondage.com isn't exception. Any ideas? Thanks! At that age there are still a whole lotta questions, as well as having a fairly narrow search. Add to that some natural insecurities of youth and you're looking at needing patience. -- A beautiful womanly form in sight and touch, is pure sexual distinction, compelling when seen...feverish when felt. I've enjoyed huge, wet, ya know wear my snow-shoes or I might fall in slice, and even that...was good. HEDONISM "Nature has placed mankind under the governance of two sovereign masters, pain and pleasure. It is for them alone to point out what we ought to do as well as to determine what we shall do" who ? | |
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| NASHVILLEDOM | Posted: 2009-09-27 18:39 | |
Liberal Dragon Slayer United States 37,150 Posts | Switching with the same partner is a rather recent event. To expect instant gratification at your age is unrealistic. Find one and convert her if she can be. The woman of your age haven't discovered themselves yet for the most part and don't know who they are sexually emotionally. Might want to seek an older switch just to play with. nd | |
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| Baronslair | Posted: 2009-09-27 18:51 | |
Forum Maniac United States 6,703 Posts | You live in The Baltic in a tough area for even vanilla.There must be clubs and groups to join,you just need to search them out. I live in Vermont which is almost as fucked,maybe we should wish each other good luck?.   | |
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| _bound_ | Posted: 2009-09-27 18:53 | |
"pervtastic" United States 2,256 Posts | NASHVILLEDOM: To expect instant gratification at your age is unrealistic. Find one and convert her if she can be. At his age, life should be about instant gratification... don't you think? | |
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| little_wonder1 | Posted: 2009-09-27 18:56 | |
Forum Maniac United States 8,172 Posts | At the ages of 18-25, most are out experiencing life, experimenting with different types of sex and partners, finding their likes, dislikes, etc..yet. Most are still in the stage of having fun with sexual exploration, as it should be. So while you may find the stray young ones into bdsm, overall you'll find that most are still learning about themselves and too busy being pinned down to one concept. Personally, I hold that a man, who deliberately and intelligently takes a pledge and then breaks it, forfeits his manhood. | |
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| Celeste43 | Posted: 2009-09-27 20:40 | |
Forum Maniac United States 11,059 Posts | Just date, be honest about your desires, and find someone interested in exploring with you. Oh yeah, it helps if you don't use buzz words that scare people off. Just that you like kinky sex, and has she ever thought of having her wrists tied to the bedpost or tying a guys's. Simple stuff to start with. If she's not interested, don't go into further details, just chalk it off as not compatible and move on. There is no should to the human heart. Salud y amor y tiempo para disfrutarlo PB's girl | |
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| NASHVILLEDOM | Posted: 2009-09-28 01:25 | |
Liberal Dragon Slayer United States 37,150 Posts | _bound_: NASHVILLEDOM: To expect instant gratification at your age is unrealistic. Find one and convert her if she can be. At his age, life should be about instant gratification... don't you think? I think you missed my "context". Switches at that age are not all that common and out in the open. Its not the same as looking for someone that likes to suck dick or take it in the ass, both of which are easier to find at any age. nd | |
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| NASHVILLEDOM | Posted: 2009-09-28 01:31 | |
Liberal Dragon Slayer United States 37,150 Posts | Celeste43: Just date, be honest about your desires, and find someone interested in exploring with you. Oh yeah, it helps if you don't use buzz words that scare people off. Just that you like kinky sex, and has she ever thought of having her wrists tied to the bedpost or tying a guys's. Simple stuff to start with. If she's not interested, don't go into further details, just chalk it off as not compatible and move on. There is no should to the human heart. Salud y amor y tiempo para disfrutarlo PB's girl Thats the ticket. nd | |
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| NovaDom_67 | Posted: 2009-09-28 06:37 | |
| Forum Apprentice United States 393 Posts | _bound_:At his age, life should be about instant gratification... don't you think? No, I absolutely do not. This is precisely the time in life when it's most important to instill and learn values that distinguish between appropriate times for self-indulgence and personal restraint that just might help avoid creating one more American adult incapable of any kind of impulse control whatsoever, a driving force behind the shit state of affairs our world has devolved to become. | |
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| _bound_ | Posted: 2009-09-28 11:59 | |
"pervtastic" United States 2,256 Posts | NASHVILLEDOM: I think you missed my "context". Switches at that age are not all that common and out in the open. Its not the same as looking for someone that likes to suck dick or take it in the ass, both of which are easier to find at any age. nd I may have missed the context of your post, and if so, my apologies. I think you may have taken my comment out of context as well... The OP is young and may or may not be looking to 'settle down'. He doesn't state in his original post if he looking for a lasting relationship or not... he states that he sometimes feels lonely, as many singles do, no matter their age. | |
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| _bound_ | Posted: 2009-09-28 12:03 | |
"pervtastic" United States 2,256 Posts | NovaDom_67: _bound_:At his age, life should be about instant gratification... don't you think? No, I absolutely do not. This is precisely the time in life when it's most important to instill and learn values that distinguish between appropriate times for self-indulgence and personal restraint that just might help avoid creating one more American adult incapable of any kind of impulse control whatsoever, a driving force behind the shit state of affairs our world has devolved to become. So at the age of 21, you were ready to settle down in a committed relationship for life? | |
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| neuroflux | Posted: 2009-09-28 19:01 | |
Forum Initiate United States 30 Posts | _bound_:So at the age of 21, you were ready to settle down in a committed relationship for life? At 21, self-indulgence isn't such a bad thing. You're learning and exploring, or at least should be, imo. Speaking as someone who squandered their youth on anxiety and inaction (up to this point; I guess I'm still "young" by some definitions)... There's a lot to life that I think people should experience, especially while young because you're less encumbered. Even if you don't feel the need to do any "crazy kid stuff," I'd say it's worth a try anyway. I like to say that my only regret thus far in life is that I have no regrets. I definitely wish I had done more self-indulgence growing up. That said, I don't think it's a problem if someone wants to settle down at a young age, although I say good luck to them because it seems not many share their eagerness for the right reasons. I used to think I was ready to settle down as soon as I found the right girl. It made dating extremely frustrating. Now, after recently discovering my kinky streak may be much wider than I'd thought, I'm more keen to take things slowly and explore that side of myself. Focusing on the journey for once instead of the destination. I'll be married/committed to The One for the rest of my life, so what's the rush? Aside from sweet tax breaks and the boost to my credit score. Maximus, I can empathize with your situation. I live in a rather conservative town wherein most of the younger women seem to be very shallow and just generally unappealing to/incompatible with me. So I've basically had to just wait it out until I was of an age to go after the more mature, sophisticated ladies in their late 20s and early-to-mid 30s. It definitely sucks. Are you in a position to move somewhere else? | |
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| NASHVILLEDOM | Posted: 2009-09-29 02:46 | |
Liberal Dragon Slayer United States 37,150 Posts | _bound_: NovaDom_67: _bound_:At his age, life should be about instant gratification... don't you think? No, I absolutely do not. This is precisely the time in life when it's most important to instill and learn values that distinguish between appropriate times for self-indulgence and personal restraint that just might help avoid creating one more American adult incapable of any kind of impulse control whatsoever, a driving force behind the shit state of affairs our world has devolved to become. So at the age of 21, you were ready to settle down in a committed relationship for life? The only one that is talking about a permanant LT relationship is you TWICE. nd | |
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| MaximusBDSM | Posted: 2009-09-29 11:21 | |
Forum Initiate Latvia 11 Posts | Baronslair: You live in The Baltic in a tough area for even vanilla.There must be clubs and groups to join,you just need to search them out. I live in Vermont which is almost as fucked,maybe we should wish each other good luck?. well, there is some organized BDSM club meetings here. But again, all members are in the 35-50 year range, and it looks more like a goth meetings rather than BDSM. | |
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