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Yes, all most all of us can look back in our childhood and see signs of what we have grown up to be. As Dom's we all want to be the captain, general, sheriff. Must sub like you wanted to be the captives, tied up, put in jail.

As for your 'first time', I don't believe the setting is as important as who you are with. Once you give your away virginity, there is no way to get it back, so you need to be very certain this person is someone you love and trust, that they love you as much and they are worthy of the honor of being your first. There are many who have given it to the first guy that came along with a hard c**k and want her, and later wish she had it back to give to that person that came into her life later that really loves her. Don't be in a hurry you are very young and have many years to have very fun happy sex ahead of you. And remember to make "safe sex" your only sex.

Let me say, we did everything but in that first year together and were hot and heavy, so to speak, w/all the other vanilla things like plain ole tit sucking, and oral play for both. The year actually gave us time to truly explore areas that often get rushed over and overlooked since young folks tend to be in a hurry about everything.

As to you and your question..... I say.....feel free to lose your virginity any way you really want to. I'm not one of the people mouthing on about making it special and waiting.... While those are very fine concepts, it sounds as if you are starting to want to be active. Making that decision is the first step actually and I applaud you for giving thought to how you wish your first experience to go.

In your profile, you also indicated being "bi." I'm curious if you are contemplating losing your virginity in a non-vanilla way because of that???

Last point:

Yeah yeah....the first is special, and you can try to hold off for the perfect person and experience, but don't get too wrapped up in that philosopy and put it off soo long that you then get paralyzed with fear over making the decision. Remember, if the first times not so hot, well dearie, you're only at the beginning of your journey. You have lots of time to continue your sexual growth!

Good luck! And Enjoy!

What I think is that ou need to trust someone a hell of a lot to let them be the first one - and you need even more trust to let someone tie you up. Have that first experience vanilla and get it behind you. It can be messy, painful and emotionally fraught enough all on its own!

I used to love the old tied-to-the-tracks cartoons too - but I disagree that kink in the bedroom dictates whether a person seeks a dominant or passive position in life. Isn't every dom's fantasy that powerful career bitch who can't wait to get on her knees behind closed doors? Each to their own! But here's one sub that definately doesn't want to go to jail, and I like being in charge in my life. Just not all the time.

Good luck chick! xo

an idea!

why not give it up in a fantasy vanilla setting?
that's a safe way to do it.
then,
give it up in a fantasy non vanilla setting.
that's another safe way to do it and
then you can compare which giving it up
you liked best.

when you get to the point of liking one
or the other MORE, practice in fantasy until
you find someone who provides you with
the love and trust it takes to REALLY
give it up in real life.