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1) How will your parents/family/friends react when they find out he/you are not monogomous to one another)?

2) How will your children (if you ever have any with this man) be affected by your relationship choices?

3) Will YOU get bored by his "ladies man" attitude? And when that happens (because it will happen), what will YOU do?

4) Why do you have to "shield" your feelings? If you're mad, don't you feel comfortable in expressing your anger? If you're sad, the same thing? Why do everything in a "light hearted" way? This tells me you're at the very beginning of a new relationship where neither of you wants to step on the other's toes. What happens when you really let out your feelings?

5) Why do you worry so much about what he thinks? Be secure that you are valuable and that he should be so lucky to have a woman like you.

6) This is THE most important one: What will you do when you've asked him for the one million'th time to pick up his socks, and he hasn't? (There's humour in this. But there is truth in humour).

You'll both need to have a long talk...MANY long talks with one another, over a span of months, years...a relationship isn't something that you can sort out in a week or two. Get VERY comfortable with yourself and YOUR wants FIRST. Make YOURSELF a priority FIRST. Do NOT get deeper into this relationship if YOUR needs aren't met because you WILL build resentments...and that's just doom to a relationship.

Be VERY truthful to yourself. To thine ownself be true. If you lie to yourself, you cheat yourself from a life of happiness.

I would suggest taking a weekend alone...and writing down as much as you can about what YOU want from a relationship. Ask him to do the same. (If he does this, at least you know he's putting in the time and effort and is serious about you. If he makes an excuse, take that into consideration as to what you want to do with this man in the future). My motto: actions speak louder than words.

After, talk about your writing/thoughts. See where you are compatible and where you aren't. Talk about why you aren't compatible and how that could change. Talk about where you see your lives in five years. Ten years. Will you still want to "fuck around with others?" (I call it for what it is).

What about children? Do either one of you want them? Then what? What about careers? Money? House or condo? Cars?

If you're seriously thinking this one is a "keeper" then you need to seriously start thinking about a LOT more important things.

I hope that helps.

If you have any guts at all ...
Best advice I can give - don't be exclusive.

Spread yourself around - just be safe - in every way.

Z

Edited by - churchmouse____ on 2010-02-14 00:16:31

Have you re-thought this potential in him?

you're fucking a guy who openly admits to liking to fuck many different women and now you're one of those women; so what's the problem?
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No, never.

It's a most unusual and unique presentation.

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Smartarse.

As it happens, i am familiar with fart...er, fetlife.

But no, i shall restrict my advice seeking to this one little space on the web.

In all seriousness, i am in a little over my head with this situation, and this is the only place i'm going to be able to get some outside perspective anytime soon...

But apart from that, keep up the patronising sarcasm...i used frequent this board quite a while ago, and your comments have always made me laugh.
Too many people in this scene take ourselves far too seriously, myself included at times.

Edited by - churchmouse____ on 2010-02-06 09:44:13