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| BLOKE | Posted: 2010-02-06 11:34 | |
| Forum Initiate 2 Posts | i am slave to a magnificent Mistress but have repeatedly failed to maintain the requisite level of submission by either ego or thoughts of vanilla. So having somewhere read of the use of psychology to eradicate such behaviour, i wondered whether anyone had of any solution. Thank you. | |
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| Mango | Posted: 2010-02-06 16:04 | |
Forum Newbie United States 63 Posts | Try hypnotherapy | |
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| Curly_Dom | Posted: 2010-02-07 00:39 | |
| Forum Initiate United States 2 Posts | First off I would just like to say hello there, and that this is a very interesting topic to me as I am a psychology major. And secondly, your behavior can indeed be modified IF 1) It's what you truly want and 2) You spend enough time with a psychologist to find out the reasons why you are resisting. I don't know of any psychologists that would take your case however, since most of them consider the need to submit and/or be a slave to another to be a psychological disorder. Hope this helps and remember, don't trust everything you read on the internet! | |
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| CherryBaby | Posted: 2010-02-07 02:07 | |
Forum Apprentice United States 145 Posts | Try this website. | |
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| DrInTheHouse | Posted: 2010-02-07 20:27 | |
569.42 Moderator  United States 2,697 Posts | Perhaps your intuition is trying to tell you something? I don't think going to a shrink will help you "become more submissive" or "not think of vanilla". Sounds like the psycho would say you have an ego-dystonic relationship and help you end it and find one that's more your cup of tea. Hell, I just did that for you for free. And worth every penny. | |
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| IamZ | Posted: 2010-02-08 04:11 | |
Forum Regular   Canada 720 Posts | Bahvaiour change is based on the effective use of both positive (and not so positive) consequences. However - unless you want to change your behaviour - the chance of success is reduced. The Dr is right (again). Better to look for someone who will love you as you are. It's much more enjoyable to positively reinforce desirable behaviours. Best, | |
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| Scheherazade67 | Posted: 2010-02-08 06:29 | |
Forum Initiate United States 27 Posts | Maybe you aren't failing. I don't know about behavior being eradicated. I mean, you are human. | |
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| sugarannespice | Posted: 2010-02-08 15:17 | |
Forum Maniac Canada 2,454 Posts | Darn. I thought this topic said Kink-friendly proctologist. -- “Even though the U.S. spends twice as much per person as any other developed country on health care, the U.S. is the only developed country that fails to provide universal coverage for all its citizens.” ~ Carole Simpson | |
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| Dr_M_E_Pain | Posted: 2010-02-08 15:55 | |
Sadistic. United States 2,808 Posts | Contrary to what Curly_Dom says there is a mountain of evidence in the field of psychology that says people's sexuality is what it is and is not susceptible to change by any method we know of. You are who you are. Any psychologist presented with your dilemma would most likely work on getting you to accept who you are and either seek to find a way you can be in a relationship with this person as your true self or support you in your efforts to move to a more functional relationship. The decision implied in that last question is one you have to make for yourself after consultation with your partner. But it should be made from a position of clarity and strength. Support in getting to that point is the role of the psychologist. -- About fucking time I changed this. | |
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| Bananacake | Posted: 2010-02-09 10:27 | |
| Forum Newbie United States 61 Posts | I'm going to jump on the "you are what you are" bandwagon. There are far worse things than having vanilla thoughts or maintaining your ego. Okay, so those aren't completely submissive traits, but maybe you're not cut out to be a slave. Maybe you'd be quite satisfied just dipping a toe in those waters once in a while. There's nothing wrong with that. If you're still hellbent on behavior modification, you have to want that kind of change for yourself. And you must be dedicated to the pursuit of altering your thought and behavior patterns. It's like trying to quit smoking or saying no to the box of Twinkies at the supermarket--only more so. Honestly though, I prefer door #1. Accept what you are and what you're not. It takes all kinds to make the world the interesting place that it is. Stand before your god, bow before your king, kneel before your Man. --Terry Pratchett | |
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| DrInTheHouse | Posted: 2010-02-10 14:50 | |
569.42 Moderator United States 2,697 Posts | sugarannespice: Darn. I thought this topic said Kink-friendly proctologist. You wish! | |
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| permissiongranted2 | Posted: 2010-02-11 20:06 | |
Forum Newbie United States 60 Posts | When I'm the sub, there are certain things that just won'd make me submit tho I wish to. When whipped, I regress back to my stubborn toddler stage and just hunker down. Meaning no matter how much more my dom dishes out w/whips, I'll just take it, even if he were to go beyond what is safe. We've learned in order for me to submit, there must be change-up in how he is dom'g me. So for me, it takes physical and mental tactics. Maybe the OP's mistress needs to consider behaviour modification instead. If the dom'g style isn't leading the sub to submit, couldn't some of the problem lie in the tactics being used? | |
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