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If you are talking to someone on the computer/phone and you don't meet within a certain time do you give it up?

I believe no matter what if you can't meet within a year at the most someone is yanking someones chain.

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This is how HT and I started, just chatting never meaning to meet because we were continents apart. Six months down the track he decided to attend my birthday party and so it began.

So I guess we are coming to the same conclusion, I have to clap eyes on you real soon before any relationship starts.

However I’m sensitive to the fact that due to life circumstances not everyone can meet, as much as they would like to, so I dislike seeing people being disparaged for having only an online affair. It’s not ideal but maybe it’s all they’ve got.

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Actually people do all the time, just not in this thread yet.
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Suggest you do the same if and when I choose to get lippy.

As usual you've chosen to take offense without understanding. I suspect that is because you can only deal with one simplistic premise at a time. So let me spell it out for you very slowly... I happened to agree with you too but here's the really complicated part so try hard to follow, you added the proviso "no matter what."

This believe it or not, means that you will not countenance any situation where two parties fail to meet within a year.... wait for it... no matter the circumstances.

Alright, are we on the same page yet?

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those that have been on these boards for a while now know that being strung along over the phone/computer for a long period of time, even years prior to meeting, yet calling yourself 'in a relationship' is only a way of fooling yourself into believing that something substancial exists, when in fact, it does not; such as the 'mainelion' saga from not so long ago.
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Part of it for me is that I really am not into talking
that much about myself, my intimate desires, or my
personal life with a stranger on the internet. I am only
interested in local people, so I suggest a meeting over
coffee or a drink in some neutral public place. Then I'll
know right off if I will be attracted or not. If someone
doesn't see the logic of that, we probably wouldn't be
compatible anyway.

For me it's a matter of weeks. (My own schedule can be
tough, so I have to be flexible on that.)

The quickest I've ever met someone is 'chatting' in the
afternoon and meeting the same evening for drinks.

However....

For the past two months I have been talking to a couple men in Maryland who I do plan to meet when I move there. I will be there either the end of April or beginning of May. So these gentlemen I am just talking to for now and they've known all the time I am still here in CT. I feel this is a bit different if I was already there, then I would want to meet fairly soon, probably after a couple weeks of chatting. Life is too short to miss out on something that can be if one is waiting for something one wishes to be. One of the gentlemen has wanted to come to CT to see me, but I am so busy packing and selling things and the house is a mess of piles of things going to one charity or church and relatives, I just wouldn't want to have someone over now. His mention of coming over however, shows he is serious.

I'm not for the long distant thing anymore myself after waiting for someone from VA for a year that kept promising he was coming week after week then it turned to months and finally after a year I said this guy is full of BS and I gave up on him.

Are you suggesting that there are insincere and ingenuious people online, who prefer to simply tease and lead you on rather than actually meet???? Perish the thought!!!

Let's be reasonable here for a moment: while there is a a fair bit of correspondence and idea exchange, primarily sites like BCOM, etc, are introduction sites - a means of accessing contact with people who want to connect up with others of the same interests, yens, kinks, to share and explore real time experiences.

How many here have sent off emails and never even gotten a reply back? (Simple courtesy is often conspicuous by its absense!). How many here have sent polite and sincere emails to people on this site (or others) with the honourable intention of introducing themselves to someone who's profile they have read, only to see a week later, that the email was READ/DELETED with no acknowledgement, or even worse, UNREAD/DELETED.

Why the hell are these people even ON these sites, indicating that they wish to meet others, yet never replying? If they are not interested in connecting up with someone, fine. No problem, but damn it, state that on your profile.

I give them two or three emails (when they reply back) and then I don't bother continuing further. (Their loss!)

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