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posslet	Posted: 2004-02-11 00:23
Maruspial Maniac Australia 4,645 Posts	-~Submissive mentoring submissive mentoring list~- If you are seeking a mentor, simply email one of the people who have volunteered to mentor by posting to this list. As authored by jeunesse: Welcome to the sub-to-sub mentor list. This list is a list of experienced submissives that are willing to mentor other submissives. Please read the entire post before responding. Bondage.com is not affiliated with this list and holds no liability of any activities as the result of this list. What is a mentor? Contrary to popular belief, a mentor is not a trainer. It is someone who has experience in an endeavour that another person aspires to. They may be nothing more than a friendly ear, a sounding board, or person to ask for advice. They may also help you figure out for yourself how you want to fit in this lifestyle. The mentor/mentoree relationship is what you make of it. Many people have heard stories of uber-doms mentoring new subs and it has become a controversial issue. Many new submissives want and need an ear to go to. It is possible that another submissive ear will be the least likely to harbour alternative motivations. When I came to the lifestyle several experienced submissives helped me. I learned from them and in turn, I grew as a person. In truth, I still am learning from my submissive elder sisters. The submissives on this list are people who are willing to talk with a new submissive. They are not endorsed by bondage.com and have not been screened in any way. As a new submissive, it is your responsibility and choice to e-mail and speak with them until you find one you feel comfortable with. Take all advice as opinion and feel free to learn from the many voices that have been where you are right now. To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list (in support and advice there is a support list that is mixed in orientation). In addition, the submissives on this list must not use this list to procure a third for their dominant partners. If you are interested in being on this list please respond to this post with the following information: Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) [b]WHEN ANSWERING THIS QUESTION, DO NOT POST ABOUT UNDERAGE BDSM AND/OR SEXUAL ACTIVITY IN YOUR POST. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.[/b] Any person without the above information will be deleted from the list. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. Moderators note: As this thread is intended to help promote healthy relationships within the BDSM community, it is located in the Relationships forum. If you have any questions or queries regarding this list, please feel free to contact the moderators of the Relationships forum. -- ~The Friskity Possum Twisted and Tweak'd Till all wrapp'd around the toy shiny and sleek The Lesbian did grab her and tied down her hide And said its insertible with enough astroglide~ Maruspial Mayhem! Edited by - friskypossum_-S-_ on 2004-11-17 05:52:53

nightdaughter	Posted: 2004-02-11 14:58
Bright Blessing Canada 1,924 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) - slave and or submissive How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) - RL = 8+ years, OL = 2 ys (total 10+ years) Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. - Well i have been helping other submissive's over the years who come to me or have been recommended to me by other's in the community. I think that with my experience, past and willingness to help as I am able, to help those who seek help and help them understand themselves better, and make better informed decisions. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. - I am not comfortable mentoring those who are interested in High Protocol style relationships, low and medium protocol style relationship fine, but not high protocol. I can of-course answer them, its just I do not have experience with High Protocol relationships (just low and medium), in that regards. Other wise I'm open to what ever comes my way, relationship wise, having to ask questions about various matters, even a sounding board for feels that you can't express to friends etc. -- ND "Being submissive may have put chains on my body, but it has removed my soul from bondage!" - the loving dominant "coherent thoughts are for those who think, incoherent for those who think to fast, but all thoughts are of interest if you take the time to listen and read." - Nyx Wolfwalker "A Good Master is hard to find, A good Friend even harder, but both? Defiantly worth looking and waiting for." - Nyx Wolfwalker

angelpet	Posted: 2004-02-11 15:43
Forum Maniac United States 3,926 Posts	Role that you identify with submissive How long you have been in the lifestyle Real Time: 12+ years Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. i have been helping other submissives quite abit over the last few years from here and through other communities i belong to. i think that with all the things i have been through, good and bad,the experiences i have had with many aspects of this lifestyle,i would be able to help others who seek someone to talk to, listen to them and advise them to help them make better informed decisions i do not feel comfortable mentoring Gor as i have had very little experience in that aspect. -- Always His angel In Chains and Heels Come see the new St Andrew's Cross at: http://mastersdsigns.com/ Soul meets soul on lover's lips. ~ by Percy Bysshe Shelly ~

mellybean	Posted: 2004-02-13 10:05
Forum Slut Forever United States 2,710 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc): both submissive and slave. How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL): 15 years RT, with 6 years OL mentoring concurrent. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task: i've already been a mentor on an informal basis, as i've met Doms and subs over the years who tell me their stories and ask me questions. i also love to do research, to find URLs and books that might be helpful. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring: you could say my specialty is in dealing with chronic illness and disability and how that affects one's place in the lifestyle. i've learned by trial and error how to adapt my changing body, and i'm always happy to share what info i've collected over the years. peace, mellybeanTC -- The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. bondage.com Support List manager: http://bondage.com/forums/topic/26635/1

wayward_filly	Posted: 2004-02-16 16:56
Forum Maniac United States 6,275 Posts	I can be reached at healingdance@yahoo.com or waywardfilly@earthlink.net Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) submissive, slave How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL ) I have been in the public lifestyle for 5 years, although Ive had Ds relationships prior to knowing a defined word for them. I have mentored both online and offline for the past couple of years Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. As I said above, Ive been a mentor to others in the past and feel as though I have assisted others to enter the lifestyle in a good way. I have peer counseling experience , am part of the support team here and have been support for many in other places Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. I have worked a good bit with those who have been in abused relationships in the past in helping them sort out what is Ds and what is abuse -- "I'm not trying to counsel any of you to do anything really special except to dare to think, and to dare to go with the truth and to dare to love completely." Edited by - wayward_filly on 2004-12-15 17:32:11

devoid	Posted: 2004-02-20 17:49
Forum Regular United States 712 Posts	Role you identify with: Bottom, with submissive tendancies How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) Online for 6 years, real time relationships for 2, with a tendancy to choose partners with more of a dominating personality. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. Not so much a mentor, but I'm an open ear. I have my opinions, but I can suspend my judgement to be a sounding board. I know it's difficult when you don't have anyone to turn to. I don't mind being there when a submissive just needs to vent and can't do so with her Master, Dom, Top, whatever. -- "well, ive come to the conclusion there is a big bunch of jerks here who cant read...strange how they can write tho" -dreaminglilith Bush for 2004 (DDSASFTDOSTIP Founder)

kisa_alone	Posted: 2004-02-24 11:11
Forum Apprentice United Kingdom 208 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) submissive and or slave How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) 4 years RT plus 4 years OL, so a total of 8 Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. i have benefited greatly from being mentored myself in the past and also believe that even when experienced there are times when a mentor type of relationship with a sister/brother can be beneficial. i am non-judgemental, a good listener and i have previous experience as a mentor both RT and OL. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. i'm not sure there is anything that would make me uncomfortable. i am generally an empathatic person, it think, and am happy to help where i can. -- " and if there comes the singers and the dancers and the flute-players - buy their gifts also. For they too are gatherers of fruit and frankincense, and that which they bring, though fashioned of dreams, is raiment and food for your soul." "It is when you give of yourself that you truly give" Kahil Gibran

vorpal_bunny	Posted: 2004-02-25 06:03
Forum Maniac 3,474 Posts	No longer available Edited by - vorpal_bunny on 2006-06-04 08:55:38

elyse	Posted: 2004-03-02 03:57
Forum Slut United States 1,773 Posts	Role that you identify with Submissive How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) 10 years, the past 8 of it RT and the first 2 online reading and absorbing Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.Largely so I can help someone avoid the pitfalls I fell into and to be around to answer the questions I had to muddle through on my own. And it is much easier talking to someone knowing they are not trying to get into your knickers. -- creiddylad SFA- Kneecapper General "Let not thy will roar, when thy power can but whisper" -Thomas Fuller Edited by - creiddylad76 on 2004-10-15 15:24:45 Edited by - elyse on 2006-09-14 04:06:47

sweet_sasha	Posted: 2004-03-05 05:55
Forum Initiate Sweden 30 Posts	My name is Sasha and I live in Sweden (Northern Europe for those who do not know). I'm 33 years old and I regard myself as a sexually submissive woman. I say sexually submissive since there is very little submissive about me in a social context. I am in a relationship with a sexually dominant man since 6 years, before that I had several shorter relationships containing a D/s element for five-six years or so. Apart from my Master I also play with other men when we decide this together. We both also take an active part in "the scene". In my everyday life I work within project management and you could say I mentor people all the time, I have also been known to mentor others within the lifestyle - both tops and bottoms - and I take this role very seriously indeed. Why makes me a good mentor you may ask? Well, the fact that I am not afraid to say what I think whilst also able to accept that other people may have a different opinion I think is a fairly good thing, the other is that I have long experience of sharing my experience. If you fancy a chat about it - just mail me! Sasha

karenina	Posted: 2004-03-05 16:34
Forum Apprentice United States 432 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) i identify myself as slave and anything else he may want me to be. How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) i have had three RT Masters and am with my current now for a year. We live a 24/7 lifestyle. i have been in the lifestyle, actively, for almost four years. i have never had an OL D/s BDSM relationship. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. i know quite a bit about the lifestyle and although i am young, i have had a lot of experience. i know safety, i know respect and i know precautions to take when starting out. i have read a lot, i have done a lot, and i have a lot of care and advice i could offer. i think mentoring a novice sub would be fun, beneficial and interesting. i love helping people and this would allow me to do so. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially i have no experience with OL d/s... -- raina Owned and operated by Jeff_in_Seattle. In heaven all the interesting people are missing. -Friedrich Nietzsche

IdiAminDada	Posted: 2004-03-20 14:29
King of Scotland Uganda 20,614 Posts	Although I have only been a real time submissive in a poly relationship for five months, I am offering to mentor because I haven't seen a single male sub make such an offer. I think it's important that male subs have access to this opportunity. Prior to my current arrangement, I was on-line for a year (tho I don't regard on-line D/s relationships as necessarily reflective of r/t D/s relationships). Mistress is a lifestyle Domme with more than 15 years r/t experience. I am learning much from her. D

enslaved_spirit	Posted: 2004-03-27 09:26
forum maniac United States 3,367 Posts	I have been in the lifestyle for almost 6yrs now. I am a collared/live-in slave to Zvengali. I have also been a top and a submissive. My heart is slave, which mean I am into S/m as well as M/s. I have responded to this post of being a mentor, because I remember all too well, what it is like to not only have anyone to talk to that you can trust to not judge, but also trust that their advise is trustworthy. Far too many people are not only getting mis-leaded but also hurt by mis-guided or "wrong" advise or training. If I can help just one new person get set on the right AND SAFE path to this wonderful life, then it's worth every minute spent. For those of you who CAN'T send EMail to my Bondage.com address can contact me at EnslavedSpirit3@hotmail.com If you CAN send me mail at B/com please use my B/com address instead of my hotmail address. Thank you! -- No one can make you feel inferior without your consent Edited by - enslaved_spirit on 2004-12-14 13:45:23

boy_richard	Posted: 2004-04-22 10:07
Forum Newbie Canada 91 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) - i would have to say i identify as a boy. How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) - i have been in this lifestyle a year and half, the past year i have been collared. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. - well as i found it hard not having to have anyone i could talk to i can relate to others just starting out. i think i have learned a lot about the basics so far and can be a help to someone just starting out trying to find out who they are. also i think being gay may help other gay submissives feel more comfortable at first disccussing their feelings. my Daddy also says that it is our duty as ones who learn from others to share that knowledge to others. Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. - i doubt i would be able to offer advice or counsel someone in high protocol or into extreme slavery. probably would be more apt to help those who feel more comfortable with the "boy" level of submission. -- proudly serving CNYLeatherDad boy_richard "wearing leather makes you now more a leatherman than wearing wool makes you a sheep" by Jack Rinella

gigglebox_	Posted: 2004-05-04 15:09
Official Friendly Person United Kingdom 1,128 Posts	Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) I'm a submissive and a bit of a masochistic bottom. How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) Started back in January 2000, knew nothing about it before that. I've not played online at all. I met my dominant male partner online, he replied to an ad I posted, we met a few weeks later and we went slowly, oh so slowly from there. Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. I'm pretty much doing it now for people who pop up to chat on messenger and for people who e-mail. I enjoy meeting people, and chatting to them. I remember what it was like to be nervous before going to my first event, agonising over what to wear and how to behave. I remember wondering if I was weird or sick because I enjoyed being flogged or caned. I know what things I did wrong and what things I should have done better. I am a good listening ear and like to think I'm mostly non-judgemental about kinks that aren't mine... and enthusiastic about those that are mine! Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. I'm involved in a maledom femsub relationship, so know about them from first hand experience. Have been in a poly relationship and so know a bit about them. Apart from that, I don't really know what I know until asked. So ask! You can email me here by sending to gigglebox_ATbondageDOTcom from an outside email address if you want to. Important!!! Please read:- I see that this thread is being added to by people asking for a mentor, instead of writing to the one they have chosen directly. As I come back to this thread only when someone has written to me, just to see what I said in it, then it is a very slow way of getting the help you want (from me anyway, maybe other people are re-reading this regularly) If anyone wants to ask me anything or talk to me about stuff, then please write directly. Asking in here will be unlikely to be noticed for a long time and so is pointless. Edited by - gigglebox_ on 2006-09-30 02:22:25

posslet	Posted: 2004-05-08 03:39
Maruspial Maniac Australia 4,645 Posts	Thanks to everyone who was posted to this list. Just a reminder, this thread is for expressions of interest in mentoring, from submissives/bottoms ONLY. Anything posted here that is NOT an expression of interest to be a mentor made by a submissive/bottom will be deleted in order to keep the listing simple and neat. ~poss~ -- Thus do things reduce.

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posslet

Posted: 2004-02-11 00:23

Maruspial Maniac

Australia
4,645 Posts

-~Submissive mentoring submissive mentoring list~-

If you are seeking a mentor, simply email one of the people who have volunteered to mentor by posting to this list.

As authored by jeunesse:

Welcome to the sub-to-sub mentor list. This list is a list of experienced submissives that are willing to mentor other submissives. Please read the entire post before responding.

Bondage.com is not affiliated with this list and holds no liability of any activities as the result of this list.

What is a mentor? Contrary to popular belief, a mentor is not a trainer. It is someone who has experience in an endeavour that another person aspires to. They may be nothing more than a friendly ear, a sounding board, or person to ask for advice. They may also help you figure out for yourself how you want to fit in this lifestyle. The mentor/mentoree relationship is what you make of it.

Many people have heard stories of uber-doms mentoring new subs and it has become a controversial issue. Many new submissives want and need an ear to go to. It is possible that another submissive ear will be the least likely to harbour alternative motivations. When I came to the lifestyle several experienced submissives helped me. I learned from them and in turn, I grew as a person. In truth, I still am learning from my submissive elder sisters.

The submissives on this list are people who are willing to talk with a new submissive. They are not endorsed by bondage.com and have not been screened in any way. As a new submissive, it is your responsibility and choice to e-mail and speak with them until you find one you feel comfortable with. Take all advice as opinion and feel free to learn from the many voices that have been where you are right now.

To be a mentor on this list you must be a submissive, bottom and/or slave. I am sorry, but in an effort to promote the integrity of this list no doms, dommes or switches will be allowed on this list (in support and advice there is a support list that is mixed in orientation). In addition, the submissives on this list must not use this list to procure a third for their dominant partners.
If you are interested in being on this list please respond to this post with the following information:

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)

[b]WHEN ANSWERING THIS QUESTION, DO NOT POST ABOUT UNDERAGE BDSM AND/OR SEXUAL ACTIVITY IN YOUR POST.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.[/b]

Any person without the above information will be deleted from the list.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.

Moderators note:

As this thread is intended to help promote healthy relationships within the BDSM community, it is located in the Relationships forum. If you have any questions or queries regarding this list, please feel free to contact the moderators of the Relationships forum.

~*The Friskity Possum Twisted and Tweak'd
Till all wrapp'd around the toy shiny and sleek
The Lesbian did grab her and tied down her hide
And said its insertible with enough astroglide*~

Maruspial Mayhem!

Edited by - friskypossum_-S-_ on 2004-11-17 05:52:53

nightdaughter

Posted: 2004-02-11 14:58

Bright Blessing

Canada
1,924 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc) - slave and or submissive

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) - RL = 8+ years, OL = 2 ys (total 10+ years)

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. - Well i have been helping other submissive's over the years who come to me or have been recommended to me by other's in the community. I think that with my experience, past and willingness to help as I am able, to help those who seek help and help them understand themselves better, and make better informed decisions.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring. - I am not comfortable mentoring those who are interested in High Protocol style relationships, low and medium protocol style relationship fine, but not high protocol. I can of-course answer them, its just I do not have experience with High Protocol relationships (just low and medium), in that regards. Other wise I'm open to what ever comes my way, relationship wise, having to ask questions about various matters, even a sounding board for feels that you can't express to friends etc.

--
ND
"Being submissive may have put chains on my body, but it has removed my soul from bondage!" - the loving dominant
"coherent thoughts are for those who think, incoherent for those who think to fast, but all thoughts are of interest if you take the time to listen and read." - Nyx Wolfwalker "A Good Master is hard to find, A good Friend even harder, but both? Defiantly worth looking and waiting for." - Nyx Wolfwalker

angelpet

Posted: 2004-02-11 15:43

Forum Maniac

United States
3,926 Posts

Role that you identify with
submissive

How long you have been in the lifestyle Real Time: 12+ years

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task. i have been helping other submissives quite abit over the last few years from here and through other communities i belong to. i think that with all the things i have been through, good and bad,the experiences i have had with many aspects of this lifestyle,i would be able to help others who seek someone to talk to, listen to them and advise them to help them make better informed decisions

i do not feel comfortable mentoring Gor as i have had very little experience in that aspect.
--
Always His

angel In Chains and Heels

Come see the new St Andrew's Cross at:

http://mastersdsigns.com/

Soul meets soul on lover's lips. ~ by Percy Bysshe Shelly ~

mellybean

Posted: 2004-02-13 10:05

Forum Slut Forever

United States
2,710 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc): both submissive and slave.

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL): 15 years RT, with 6 years OL mentoring concurrent.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task: i've already been a mentor on an informal basis, as i've met Doms and subs over the years who tell me their stories and ask me questions. i also love to do research, to find URLs and books that might be helpful.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring: you could say my specialty is in dealing with chronic illness and disability and how that affects one's place in the lifestyle. i've learned by trial and error how to adapt my changing body, and i'm always happy to share what info i've collected over the years.

peace,
mellybeanTC
--
The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.

bondage.com Support List manager: http://bondage.com/forums/topic/26635/1

wayward_filly

Posted: 2004-02-16 16:56

Forum Maniac

United States
6,275 Posts

I can be reached at healingdance@yahoo.com or waywardfilly@earthlink.net

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)

submissive, slave

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL
)
I have been in the public lifestyle for 5 years, although Ive had Ds relationships prior to knowing a defined word for them. I have mentored both online and offline for the past couple of years

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.
As I said above, Ive been a mentor to others in the past and feel as though I have assisted others to enter the lifestyle in a good way. I have peer counseling experience , am part of the support team here and have been support for many in other places

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.
I have worked a good bit with those who have been in abused relationships in the past in helping them sort out what is Ds and what is abuse

--
"I'm not trying to counsel any of you to do anything really special
except to dare to think, and to dare to go with the truth and to dare to
love completely."

Edited by - wayward_filly on 2004-12-15 17:32:11

devoid

Posted: 2004-02-20 17:49

Forum Regular

United States
712 Posts

Role you identify with:
Bottom, with submissive tendancies

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)
Online for 6 years, real time relationships for 2, with a tendancy to choose partners with more of a dominating personality.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.

Not so much a mentor, but I'm an open ear. I have my opinions, but I can suspend my judgement to be a sounding board. I know it's difficult when you don't have anyone to turn to. I don't mind being there when a submissive just needs to vent and can't do so with her Master, Dom, Top, whatever.
--
"well, ive come to the conclusion there is a big bunch of jerks here who cant read...strange how they can write tho" -dreaminglilith

Bush for 2004

(DDSASFTDOSTIP Founder)

kisa_alone

Posted: 2004-02-24 11:11

Forum Apprentice

United Kingdom
208 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)

submissive and or slave

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)

4 years RT plus 4 years OL, so a total of 8

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.

i have benefited greatly from being mentored myself in the past and also believe that even when experienced there are times when a mentor type of relationship with a sister/brother can be beneficial. i am non-judgemental, a good listener and i have previous experience as a mentor both RT and OL.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.

i'm not sure there is anything that would make me uncomfortable. i am generally an empathatic person, it think, and am happy to help where i can.
--
" and if there comes the singers and the dancers and the flute-players - buy their gifts also. For they too are gatherers of fruit and frankincense, and that which they bring, though fashioned of dreams, is raiment and food for your soul."

"It is when you give of yourself that you truly give" Kahil Gibran

vorpal_bunny

Posted: 2004-02-25 06:03

Forum Maniac

3,474 Posts

No longer available

Edited by - vorpal_bunny on 2006-06-04 08:55:38

elyse

Posted: 2004-03-02 03:57

Forum Slut

United States
1,773 Posts

Role that you identify with Submissive

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL) 10 years, the past 8 of it RT and the first 2 online reading and absorbing

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.Largely so I can help someone avoid the pitfalls I fell into and to be around to answer the questions I had to muddle through on my own. And it is much easier talking to someone knowing they are not trying to get into your knickers.

--
creiddylad
SFA- Kneecapper General
"Let not thy will roar, when thy power can but whisper" -Thomas Fuller

Edited by - creiddylad76 on 2004-10-15 15:24:45

Edited by - elyse on 2006-09-14 04:06:47

sweet_sasha

Posted: 2004-03-05 05:55

Forum Initiate

Sweden
30 Posts

My name is Sasha and I live in Sweden (Northern Europe for those who do not know). I'm 33 years old and I regard myself as a sexually submissive woman. I say sexually submissive since there is very little submissive about me in a social context.

I am in a relationship with a sexually dominant man since 6 years, before that I had several shorter relationships containing a D/s element for five-six years or so. Apart from my Master I also play with other men when we decide this together. We both also take an active part in "the scene".

In my everyday life I work within project management and you could say I mentor people all the time, I have also been known to mentor others within the lifestyle - both tops and bottoms - and I take this role very seriously indeed.

Why makes me a good mentor you may ask? Well, the fact that I am not afraid to say what I think whilst also able to accept that other people may have a different opinion I think is a fairly good thing, the other is that I have long experience of sharing my experience.

If you fancy a chat about it - just mail me!

Sasha

karenina

Posted: 2004-03-05 16:34

Forum Apprentice

United States
432 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)
i identify myself as slave and anything else he may want me to be.

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)
i have had three RT Masters and am with my current now for a year. We live a 24/7 lifestyle.
i have been in the lifestyle, actively, for almost four years.
i have never had an OL D/s BDSM relationship.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.
i know quite a bit about the lifestyle and although i am young, i have had a lot of experience. i know safety, i know respect and i know precautions to take when starting out.
i have read a lot, i have done a lot, and i have a lot of care and advice i could offer.
i think mentoring a novice sub would be fun, beneficial and interesting. i love helping people and this would allow me to do so.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially
i have no experience with OL d/s...
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raina
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In heaven all the interesting people are missing.
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IdiAminDada

Posted: 2004-03-20 14:29

King of Scotland

Uganda
20,614 Posts

Although I have only been a real time submissive in a poly relationship for five months, I am offering to mentor because I haven't seen a single male sub make such an offer. I think it's important that male subs have access to this opportunity. Prior to my current arrangement, I was on-line for a year (tho I don't regard on-line D/s relationships as necessarily reflective of r/t D/s relationships).

Mistress is a lifestyle Domme with more than 15 years r/t experience. I am learning much from her.

enslaved_spirit

Posted: 2004-03-27 09:26

forum maniac

United States
3,367 Posts

I have been in the lifestyle for almost 6yrs now. I am a collared/live-in slave to Zvengali. I have also been a top and a submissive. My heart is slave, which mean I am into S/m as well as M/s.

I have responded to this post of being a mentor, because I remember all too well, what it is like to not only have anyone to talk to that you can trust to not judge, but also trust that their advise is trustworthy. Far too many people are not only getting mis-leaded but also hurt by mis-guided or "wrong" advise or training. If I can help just one new person get set on the right AND SAFE path to this wonderful life, then it's worth every minute spent.

For those of you who CAN'T send EMail to my Bondage.com address can contact me at EnslavedSpirit3@hotmail.com If you CAN send me mail at B/com please use my B/com address instead of my hotmail address. Thank you!
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*No one can make you feel inferior without your consent*

Edited by - enslaved_spirit on 2004-12-14 13:45:23

boy_richard

Posted: 2004-04-22 10:07

Forum Newbie

Canada
91 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)
- i would have to say i identify as a boy.

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)
- i have been in this lifestyle a year and half, the past year i have been collared.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.
- well as i found it hard not having to have anyone i could talk to i can relate to others just starting out. i think i have learned a lot about the basics so far and can be a help to someone just starting out trying to find out who they are. also i think being gay may help other gay submissives feel more comfortable at first disccussing their feelings. my Daddy also says that it is our duty as ones who learn from others to share that knowledge to others.

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.
- i doubt i would be able to offer advice or counsel someone in high protocol or into extreme slavery. probably would be more apt to help those who feel more comfortable with the "boy" level of submission.

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boy_richard

"wearing leather makes you now more a leatherman than wearing wool makes you a sheep" by Jack Rinella

gigglebox_

Posted: 2004-05-04 15:09

Official Friendly Person

United Kingdom
1,128 Posts

Role that you identify with (submissive, slave bottom, pet etc)
I'm a submissive and a bit of a masochistic bottom.

How long you have been in the lifestyle (identify RT vs. OL)
Started back in January 2000, knew nothing about it before that. I've not played online at all. I met my dominant male partner online, he replied to an ad I posted, we met a few weeks later and we went slowly, oh so slowly from there.

Why you want to be a mentor and what do you think qualifies you for the task.
I'm pretty much doing it now for people who pop up to chat on messenger and for people who e-mail. I enjoy meeting people, and chatting to them. I remember what it was like to be nervous before going to my first event, agonising over what to wear and how to behave. I remember wondering if I was weird or sick because I enjoyed being flogged or caned. I know what things I did wrong and what things I should have done better. I am a good listening ear and like to think I'm mostly non-judgemental about kinks that aren't mine... and enthusiastic about those that are mine!

Also, if there are any types of roles, relationships etc that you would not feel comfortable mentoring include this in your post, as well as any types of relationships you feel especially fitted to mentoring.
I'm involved in a maledom femsub relationship, so know about them from first hand experience. Have been in a poly relationship and so know a bit about them. Apart from that, I don't really know what I know until asked. So ask!

You can email me here by sending to gigglebox_ATbondageDOTcom from an outside email address if you want to.

Important!!! Please read:-

I see that this thread is being added to by people asking for a mentor, instead of writing to the one they have chosen directly. As I come back to this thread only when someone has written to me, just to see what I said in it, then it is a very slow way of getting the help you want (from me anyway, maybe other people are re-reading this regularly) If anyone wants to ask me anything or talk to me about stuff, then please write directly. Asking in here will be unlikely to be noticed for a long time and so is pointless.

Edited by - gigglebox_ on 2006-09-30 02:22:25

posslet

Posted: 2004-05-08 03:39

Maruspial Maniac

Australia
4,645 Posts

Thanks to everyone who was posted to this list.

Just a reminder, this thread is for expressions of interest in mentoring, from submissives/bottoms ONLY.

Anything posted here that is NOT an expression of interest to be a mentor made by a submissive/bottom will be deleted in order to keep the listing simple and neat.

~poss~
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