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| out_of_bounds | Posted: 2004-05-26 19:55 | |
Forum Apprentice Canada 114 Posts | I've noticed in other postings that members of b.com have family members who are subs, dom/mes, cross-dressers, bi or kinky in some other way. Does anyone know if any research has been done that might suggest if being kinky is genetic? Have we all got a duff gene that explains our interest in things that are socially scorned? Are we all medical misfits Perhaps we should have a show of hands of anyone who has kinksters in their family. I suspect my brother, but don't know for sure (the stockings in his drawer when he doesn't have a girlfriend is why I'm suspicious!). This could be quite useful to know. Will my kids have a kinky persuation even if I keep them from mine? | |
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| Sweetsmaster | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:02 | |
Forum Slut United States 1,138 Posts | Without citing empirical evidence, I would say that it is a modeled and learned behavior. Not that I subscribe to a radical behaviorist camp, but many of our behaviors are learned, not innate or genetic in nature. From our earliest moments, we observe others and his or her behavior and associate that with right or wrong, good or bad, unpleasant or pleasant. We may learn to be submissive, as that gains us attention not gained elsewhere; we develop dominant tendancies from observing what that dynamic brings...just a few thoughts... "Though this be madness, yet there is method in 't"...Hamlet... | |
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| peridot_mist | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:07 | |
Forum Initiate United States 46 Posts | I can definitely say, that if being kinky is genetic, then it seems to have skipped several generations in my family. My family is straight laced and would probably have a collective heart attack if they knew what I really liked. I have told my sister a little and all she could do was stare at me in wide-eyed shock. She didn't know that "normal" people did that. LOL I guess I am not "normal" in her eyes. Of course, I never did try to live my life like everyone else. Edited by - peridot_mist on 2004-05-26 20:09:08 | |
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| the_lextress | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:29 | |
Forum Slut United States 1,239 Posts | Ask Shifty. | |
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| out_of_bounds | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:42 | |
Forum Apprentice Canada 114 Posts | Thanks wonder_woman. Interesting reading. I can understand that growing up in an environment where kink is already open may counter the genetic possibility. I've been thinking about my own childhood and have absolutely no memory of even suspecting something 'different' in any of my family (apart from my brother's stockings!). It does seem too much of a coincidence that so many people from the same family have the same kinky interests. | |
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| yum_yi | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:42 | |
Forum Slut Canada 1,701 Posts | I would tend to agree that this sort of thing is probably more learnt than genetic… however that doesn’t explain my own kinky family tree. I have an aunt and uncle (who live far away and I was not raised with) who practice an alternative lifestyle, two cousin’s and their respective partners who are a generation older than I, and I rarely saw apart from weddings and such (who were, however raised together) and myself who are all ‘out’ (or at least within a kink community). I also have other members of my family who I suspect (my cousin-in-law’s future husband kept saying things like “hard limit” (to broccoli) and “calling red” , offering to serve all the ladies at that end of the table…etc… at a family bbq, another uncle’s girlfriend prefers to sit on the floor than a couch… ) but that could also just be me reading WAY too much into things. I wasn’t raised with any of these people… so the learnt characteristics aren’t there. I’m out to both of my parents (albeit not on the terms I anticipated) and both of them are fairly negative towards the lifestyle, though at least conceding to my choices. So – I don’t think that they would have provided an environment where this lifestyle would have seemed a natural choice…like it might have if my parents were more open to the idea. -- “I want Dru back, I've just gotta be the man I was, the man she loved. I'm gonna do what I shoulda done in the first place: I'll find her, wherever she is, tie her up, torture her until she likes me again. Love's a funny thing.” – Spike, BTVS | |
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| In_Love | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:42 | |
Forum Maniac United States 2,973 Posts | I come from a long line of perverts. However, it is quite possible that it is not genetic. We might just be fucking one another up generation after generation. -- | |
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| Lordandmaster | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:46 | |
| Forum Slut United States 1,695 Posts | I've always believed it had to be genetic somehow. We also have to define "kinky" a little more carefully. Virtually everyone has had SOME kind of kinky sex--or at least kinky desires. Hell, coveting your neighbor's wife is fucking kinky in my book. | |
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| wee | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:50 | |
Forum Regular - unknown - 587 Posts | I think it is... you should see my Dad..lol. -- | |
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| web_tart | Posted: 2004-05-26 20:53 | |
Angelic_Tart United States 9,848 Posts | the_lextress: Ask Shifty.
That is SOOOOO true!!! I sooooooo want to meet his MOM!!! Bondage Amazon Subs Head Tart in charge of Recruitment ~~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ Toss THAT little nugget in the fire, and watch her head explode!!! He who knows patience knows peace ~~~ Chinese Proverb It's all a test~~~PoDB | |
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| xDookybloodx | Posted: 2004-05-26 21:04 | |
Forum Initiate United States 20 Posts | yah! paraphiles ( thast those who lose the unusual ) have more close family members who are paraphiles. 3% of nonparaphiles have family paraphiles kudos to psychology of human sexuality | |
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| pamperedpet26 | Posted: 2004-05-26 21:06 | |
| Forum Maniac United States 2,073 Posts | i doubt it no one in my family is kinky that wouldnt even dream of doing the things i do for Master -- ~~~Master's pet Rain~~~ http://www.slaveregister.com/certificate/669945 ~ look into my eyes, see my strength the way i adore You, the completeness that You give me as i stare into Your eyes and surrender to You, together We are Master and submissive, apart We are nothing~ | |
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| andy882 | Posted: 2004-05-26 21:08 | |
| Forum Initiate United States 43 Posts | genetics are a trippy thing-i didn't meet my birth family until i was 26, when we met there were so many similarities, even the words and the context in which we used them were identical, and yah, kinky as well. | |
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| enslaved_spirit | Posted: 2004-05-26 21:29 | |
| forum maniac United States 3,367 Posts | Not sure if it's genetic or not, but in the last two years I have found out that I have an Uncle and one Cousin who like to wear women's underwear and that one cousin has even approached me wanting me to find someone for him to submit to. Then there's my Sadistic Mom, who wants me to find a mentor for her to learn from so she can go find her own little "pet" to torment... Ahhh family, gotta love 'em.. -- *No one can make you feel inferior without your consent* *Live in the moment, for each one is precious and not to be squandered* | |
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| allyin | Posted: 2004-05-26 21:47 | |
| Bad Ass Barbie United States 4,946 Posts | I think it is entirely possible to have a genetic predisposition to certain behaviors and for certain feelings. I find that BDSM is thrilling and exciting, it packs that wallop that I need to feel satisfied. It takes me to an edge that 'regular' sex has never been able to. I have always been very attracted to Dominant men; men who definitely wore the pants, physically imposing. I also found being chased, held captive, and being tied up thrilling and exciting as a child. I do think that there are probably other kinksters in my family....but it's a pretty repressed clan for the most part and I doubt I could ever get any to cop to it! They seem satisfied (and horrified!) enough with what I allude to in conversations. I think it is very possible that people who are attracted to kink, may indeed need that extra adrenaline, that extra 'something' that they get out of BDSM to feel 'normal' whatever that is anyway. | |
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| WhiteWolfs_beauty | Posted: 2004-05-26 21:51 | |
Serial Giggler United States 4,933 Posts | web_tart: the_lextress: Ask Shifty.
That is SOOOOO true!!! I sooooooo want to meet his MOM!!! Bondage Amazon Subs Head Tart in charge of Recruitment ~~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ ~~~ Toss THAT little nugget in the fire, and watch her head explode!!! He who knows patience knows peace ~~~ Chinese Proverb It's all a test~~~PoDB giggles along with web-tart!!! Frankly part of my submissiveness comes from being overprotected, believing that my Daddy could always fix anything, and not being taught or allowed to make decisions for myself growing up. I do not have the strength it takes to make a decision and not waver or worry myself sick over it. Being a single parent and making ALL the decisions has literally just about killed me several times. But I look at my youngest child, who has a different father, and who in her life has spent maybe 1 year total around him (she is almost 13). But she IS him. Her behavior, Her words and how she misprounces them, her sense of humour, her way of looking for attention, the way she stands, the way she fidgits, the faces she makes, she is a female version of him. so yes, I think very much of it is genetic. just my thoughts, sorry so long. WWsbeauty Master | |
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