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Drowning
Posted:Jul 6, 2024 9:15 pm
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2024 6:53 pm
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We The Kinky
Posted:Jul 3, 2024 12:53 am
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2024 9:29 am
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We the Kinky, of the BDSM Culture, to form a more Unified society, establish a Safe Sane, and Consensual, ensure Tolerance, provide awareness against Predators, promote general Well-being, and secure the blessings of Knowledge to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Guideline for the Sexually Liberated.
Guidelines of Liberation:

1. Protect yourself - You are the first and last defense for your well-being, take the time and effort to know who you are playing with. Vetting someone is not telling them you don’t trust them; it’s telling them that you care about yourself. If they have a problem with this, they may not have your best interests at heart. Additionally, Safe words are a valuable method of communication. Assign no stigma to them, (you are not ruining a scene, or disappointing your partner, by using them) as they can prevent problems; physical, mental, and emotional
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2. Inform Yourself - There are many resources for beginners and advanced alike, FIND THEM! Knowledge and furthering your education about kinks will allow you to get more out of your time and allow you to explore new things. It will also help you communicate your needs with a partner (or potential)
3. Know Yourself - While the fantasy that your partner knows you better than you do is great. It is rarely the case early on. Know what drives you, and why you choose this lifestyle. What you wish to gain or give. Know what is important to you, and what you need from it.

4. Choose your own Identity - never let someone else tell you who or what you are. Labels can be a trap or even be misleading If you feel you are “something” then don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise. For some even having an “Identity” is limiting, so remember that “Choosing not to decide, is still a choice” (and an option)

5. Choose your Limits - Your limits are exactly that, YOURS. You decide what you Will Not do, or Must Have, in your relationships. No one else can make that determination for you. You certainly CAN choose to have no limits with a trusted partner, but that is YOUR choice, not theirs.

6. Choose your own Kink - Enjoy what you enjoy… It’s OK… You are free to be you. Don’t hesitate to experiment, Read, and LEARN. But above all, be kind and true to yourself.

7. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate - Mind reading is not possible. Knowing a person so deeply that you can read or predict them is. But that usually takes years of… you guessed it… Communication. You have to learn how to communicate; your needs, your desires, your fears… even if it’s a crayon drawing, make the effort to make yourself understood. This will only benefit your relationships.

8. Protect your Partner(s) - Sometimes, someone has placed trust in you. Those times are when they are most vulnerable. This is true for both sides of the slash. Sometimes you can push yourself beyond your limits “for the sake of your partner” and they may be doing the same. This scenario can end badly. Simple “yellow” safe words (by either side) can mean the difference between a good scene and a bad one. Additionally, knowing their medical or special needs is critical.

9. Protect your Friends - Be there for them, to talk to, to confide in, and on the watch, for red flags, they may miss. Pay attention to who is approaching them at public gatherings, and require communication from them before they leave with people they did not arrive with. Be their safe call. We all have the potential to miss important tells when the NRE (New Relationship Energy) kicks in. Since you are on the outside, your feedback and watchfulness may make the difference one day… Likewise, be ready to accept this same input from another trusted friend.

10. Protect your Community - Be aware of, and follow, the rules and policies of any venue, Public or Private. Do not Create or Bring Drama to public venues, sometimes it’s unavoidable, so work closely with the venue’s administration to minimize this. Creating problems, or failing to follow established rules and guidelines can get venues closed or create undesired law enforcement interdiction. Don’t be that person.

11. Accept the Variety - Remember that your kink is not everyone else’s just as theirs may not be yours. Be kind and remember that we all have different tastes with the same Safe, Sane, and Consensual mantra. If we cannot be accepting of each other in this community, we certainly should not expect those outside our realm to accept us.

12. Cause no Harm - Never knowingly out someone, spread rumors about others, or do anything to undermine another relationship (except #8 above). It’s simply bad form. Again, don’t be that person.

-Grymjahk~

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The ABC's Of BDSM
Posted:Jul 2, 2024 3:30 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2024 9:53 am
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O is for Obedience:

Obedience is the act of following the leadership of a dominant partner in a D/S relationship. It involves a submissive willingly relinquishing control and adhering to the guidelines set by the dominant. This dynamic is based on mutual trust, consent, and respect, ensuring that parties derive satisfaction and fulfillment from the exchange. Obedience can enhance the intimacy and connection between partners, as it requires clear communication, an understanding of boundaries, and a deep level of commitment to the roles each person has chosen to assume.

©TLK2024
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Sunrise, Sunrise
Posted:Jun 30, 2024 12:38 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2024 7:34 pm
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“Don’t waste sunrises on people who will escape by dusk.”
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The ABC’s Of BDSM
Posted:Jun 29, 2024 11:31 pm
Last Updated:Jul 1, 2024 5:47 am
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N is for Negotiation

Negotiation is the process of discussing limits, desires, and consent before engaging in BDSM activities. It is a crucial step that ensures all parties involved have a clear understanding of each other's boundaries and expectations. During negotiation, individuals openly communicate their interests, limits, and any specific conditions they may have. This dialogue helps to establish trust and mutual respect, laying the foundation for a safe and consensual experience. By addressing these aspects beforehand, participants can create a more fulfilling and enjoyable interaction, minimizing the risk of misunderstandings or unwanted surprises.
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The ABC’s Of BDSM
Posted:Jun 26, 2024 12:21 am
Last Updated:Jun 30, 2024 12:27 am
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M is for Masochism:


Masochism is the pleasure derived from receiving pain or humiliation. It encompasses a complex interplay of psychological and physical sensations, where the recipient finds gratification in surrendering to consensual discomfort or degradation. Masochistic individuals may seek out experiences that push their limits, finding liberation and arousal in the intensity of sensation and surrender.
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The ABC's Of BDSM
Posted:Jun 25, 2024 5:59 am
Last Updated:Jun 30, 2024 12:26 am
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K is for Kink:
Kink, short for kinky, represents a broad spectrum of sexual preferences and practices. It encompasses a wide range of activities that may involve power dynamics, sensation play, role-playing, or fetishes. Kink is deeply personal and varies greatly from person to person, requiring open communication, negotiation, and consent between partners. It celebrates the diversity of human sexuality and can be a source of pleasure, intimacy, and self-discovery for those who engage in it.

©TLK2024
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The ABC's Of BDSM
Posted:Jun 22, 2024 11:50 pm
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2024 12:37 am
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D is for Dominance:

Dominance in a BDSM relationship involves one partner assuming control and authority over the other, creating a dynamic built on trust, communication, and consent. The dominant leads the interaction, setting rules, giving commands, and guiding the submissive through various activities and scenes. This power exchange can manifest in numerous ways, from gentle guidance and protection to more intense forms of control and discipline. Essential to a healthy D/S relationship is the emphasis on consent, respect, and understanding the boundaries and desires of the submissive, ensuring a safe and fulfilling experience for the partners. Dominance is not about exerting power but about fostering a deep emotional and psychological connection, where the dominant provides structure, support, and care within the negotiated limits of the relationship.



©TLK2024
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The ABC's Of BDSM
Posted:Jun 18, 2024 5:06 am
Last Updated:Jun 30, 2024 12:16 am
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C is for Consent:

Consent is the cornerstone of all BDSM activities, distinguishing them from abuse or coercion. It is the voluntary, informed, and enthusiastic agreement between all parties involved in a scene or relationship. Consent ensures that everyone is aware of the nature of the activities, understands the risks, and agrees to participate without any pressure or manipulation.

In BDSM, consent is often established through negotiation, where partners discuss their limits, desires, and boundaries beforehand. Safe words are commonly used to provide a clear and immediate way to stop or modify the activities during a scene. Consent is an ongoing process, meaning it can be revoked at any time, and all parties must respect these boundaries to maintain trust and safety. Understanding and prioritizing consent creates a respectful and empowering environment, allowing individuals to explore their kinks and dynamics in a safe, consensual, and mutually satisfying manner.

©TLK2024
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A Prayer For The Living.
Posted:Jun 17, 2024 7:41 am
Last Updated:Jun 23, 2024 12:08 am
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Life. Break in me what needs to be broken.

Fix my hope of ever being fixed. Use me.

Draw every ounce of creativity out of me.

Help me live a radically unique life, forever forging a never-before-trodden path in the forest.

Show me how to love more deeply than I ever thought possible.

Whatever I am still turning away from, keep shoving in my face.

Whatever I am still at war with, help me soften towards, relax into, fully embrace. Where my heart is still closed, show me a way to open it without violence. Where I am still holding on, help me let go.

Give me challenges and struggles and seemingly insurmountable obstacles, if that will bring an even deeper humility and trust in the intelligence of life. Help me laugh at my own seriousness. Allow me to find the humor in the dark places. Show me a profound sense of rest in the midst of the storm. Don't spare me from the truth. Ever.

Let gratitude be my guide. Let forgiveness be my mantra. Let this moment be a constant companion. Let me see Your face in every face. Let me feel Your warm presence in my own presence. Hold me when I stumble.

Breathe me when I cannot breathe.

Let me die living, not live dying.

Amen.

- Jeff Foster, A Prayer for the Living
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